There are days I am asking myself,
"Till when will I be in love with チャ?"
"Will it possible to convert this love to sibling love or best friend love? If yes, when it will happen?"
---
This is a good read:
1. I was too needy. Moving forward, this should be completely removed from my system.
2. NA
3. I need to continually work on myself. The right person at the right time. I should value more of myself. Continually work out! Continually learn new things. Go back to old fun hobbies. Like attracts like.
"In order to attract a real relationship, you first need to make sure that you are in the right place emotionally. Make sure you want a relationship for the right reasons, not just to fill a void or make you feel better about yourself. You also need to develop a firm sense of who you are and learn how to be happy without a relationship."
4. I keep going and chasing women who didn't even like me. I should stop this once and for all.
"What was I getting out of this relationship? Why was I so drawn to her? What had she even given to me? I did a lot for her, but what had she ever actually done to show me she cared? (The answer was nothing.)"
"Remember, damage cases are a waste of time and energy. Wanting a woman who doesn't want you is a tragedy. Time is a precious thing to waste, so get to work and undo the faulty wiring that leads you to the women who can't appreciate you."
5. NA
6. "A relationship is going to unfold in only one of two ways: it will either last forever or it will fall apart. In order to get the relationship that lasts, you have to come to terms with all the ones that didn't."
I gotta move on from チャ and accept everything. No more chasing. No more questions nor validations. I gotta let go of the baggage so that when the right person comes in, I'm all ready to accept her as a new person.
---
Another good read:
https://thoughtcatalog.com/nicole-kylie/2016/06/our-generation-has-ruined-love-with-these-excuses/?utm_campaign=related&utm_source=thoughtcatalog&utm_term=nicole-kylie
'I want to focus on my career and be successful.'
No, my success should not be determined with my career and how much money I earn. Being happy and enjoying myself with my loved ones should suffice. I wanna meet the same woman to be my forever partner in life.
'We can't be fixed. We should break up.'
No, I've learned this in my recent relationship. As much as possible, I want to do my best to fix what should be fixed in misunderstanding. I choose the woman I love and I should stand till the end. Open communication is the key.
'Getting married/having a family is too much of a burden.'
No, I love having my own family in the future.
'I need freedom and space.' ---> "Riding a cow while looking for a horse."
I remember the time when my ex asked for this, she was looking for a horse. :( And I am also guilty of this. There were few times, I talked to old crushes (as long as I know they are single or no one is dating them) and asked how are they. But I eventually after so many issues I had with my ex. I valued her more than anything else that's why I was trying my very best in serving her as my queen. But eventually, she let go...
---
Closing remarks:
I am very thankful for the last 4 years we've been together. I've really learned a lot. There are things I don't want to do anymore in my future partner, things I want to continue in the future, and the things I will start doing. I'll use this time to develop and prepare myself till the right time we'll meet. So help me God.
No comments:
Post a Comment