In His Perfect Time

I remembered the time I asked God why He allowed someone I love to leave and why we didn’t work.

Then, God taught me to look at the bigger picture of why He had to put an end to that story.

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Sometimes, you might feel God has destroyed your plans and left you empty and broken.

Yet, you don’t have to regret who’d left nor what you’d lost.

No matter how much you loved that person, or how many years you’ve spent together, these are not enough reasons to hold on IF that is NOT the will of God for you.

“God will save you from the wrong person, to save you for the right one. “

God will give you the right person He perfectly chosen for you. (Genesis 2:18)

A right person who will love you with HIS perfect love.

So never regret who and what you’ve lost, bcoz it is more regretful if you miss the right person God has for you.

God knows better WHO is the best for you.

And He will surely lead that person to you in His own way and His own time simply because He promised a good future for you. Jeremiah 29:11

Remember, out of God’s amazing love & grace, you deserve nothing but the best.

So to you who is waiting,

be grateful, remain faithful and preserve yourself for the right one just as what God is doing for you right now.

Soon, I pray, you’ll praise God and say “Thank you Lord that you save me for the best one.”

Glorify God from this day and when that day comes!

“and call upon me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you shall glorify me.””

‭‭Psalm‬ ‭50:15‬ ‭

God bless you, 𝓯𝓪𝓲𝓽𝓱𝓯𝓾𝓵 𝓸𝓷𝓮.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

God only knows

I am really a slow person. Haha!

Carol wanted me to like/love her not because she likes/loves me. But I prefer to be with someone who sees and values my worth the way I see and value it. I'd rather choose the person who likes/loves me than I like/love. She's the other way around.

I want to scrutinize my heart and feelings. I love Cha. But I don't want as a romantic love anymore, but a family and bestfriend love. Why? I've had enough. I want to completely move on from the romantic love I may have left for Cha. I want to love Carol because I love her. I don't wanna think about the "if only Cha didn't ignore me last month, etc".

I have to spend more time alone. When I can now travel, I want to travel alone or with my family. I might want to go for few weeks. She has a choice of whether she'll wait for me or move on. If she chooses the latter, then she's not the person God is preparing for me. If she chooses the first one and was able to wait for me, then surely, I will be hers forever.

I don't want to skip any process in moving on. One month might be enough, especially I worked very hard. But memories are popping from time to time in my head. I ignore them, but they still kept on coming once or twice in 2-3 days. Maybe, when I completely has moved on, means has forgotten at least 90%, bits of memories won't even perk in the windows of my mind.

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God, I know you have very great plans for my life. And I want to trust you. I cannot trust my mind nor my feelings anymore. I want to trust you completely and surrender myself. I don't have any idea what's best for me or who's the person you have been preparing for me. I just know she's out there. Please help me change to be a better person and be the right person for your person. Thank you for always saving me. Amen!

A Traveler’s Prayer

I am hoping and praying that the world will soon heal from the pandemic.

I really wanted to go to Australia and bring my mother there.

I really wanted to go back to Japan and South Korea. And probably bring Venice in Japan.

I wanted to go to Batanes (3rd try). I already bought my tickets for March 2021.

I'd rather stay single and travel. Not unless God will give me this year or next year the woman of my prayers and we'll travel together. ☺️

I wanna spend more time with myself, my furbabies, and my family.

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In Jesus name, amen! 🙏

In God's Plan (Seek Him First)

Why I decided to move on last Aug 2020?

Because I already fell ill physically (non-critical cyst), not just mentally and emotionally. I already got tired chasing (suyuin) the person I loved. That I finally realized that I love myself more and I should know my worth. That I don't have to force myself to someone who doesn't even care or want me.

I worked hard for the whole month of August. Meditation, workout, doctor check-ups, anti-depressive meds, read books, and family time. I dedicated myself to these, detached myself from the social media world. I was able to heal fast, also with the help of prayers and avoided the thoughts of past. I am very happy as single.

Sep 2020. I reconnected with a friend, Carol. Fast forward, we're now good friends. We both like each other. But we're not yet in a relationship nor in a commitment. We're both cautious (and probably don't want commitment yet) because we both want our next relationship will be our last one. That the next one would be the person we will be with for the rest of our lives. No ILYs, kisses, nor Good mornings yet. These words are precious to me and I only want to say them to my official partner - I guess she is too. 

Told her that since it's not yet possible for us to see each other, we'll just enjoy each other's company as good friends online. If we're really destined to be together, in God's perfect time, we'll meet again. And if she's the woman God is preparing for me and I'm the person that's been preparing by God for her, then we will end up together. And if we're only destined to be good friends, that's okay. God knows best. 😃 All in His perfect time.

Love is patient. Love is kind.

P.S. Ayaw ko parin magsalita ng tapos. Baka iba plan ni God in the end. Pinasa-Diyos ko na lahat ng decisions and takbo ng buhay ko. Aminado narin naman ako na late bloomer ako at hopeless romantic. Pero alam ko sa sarili ko na I'm a loyal and faithful person. And I always think that the person I will love is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with.

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"Well.. I know my worth at alam ko ano kaya ko gawin kasi sa tao.. para mahalin ako." - Carol

Nope, pinakita at pinaramdam mo lang sa tao yung worth nya. 

"Kelan kaya sya mag sasabi ng I LOVE YOU 🤣😂" - Carol

If He permits and in His perfect timing.

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What makes me like her?

She's funny. I can probably laugh all day just by talking to her. She's a straightforward person. They may hurt a little but they made me realized few things about my life and I appreciated it. She's an extrovert and I think, a mature person.

Few weeks I ago, I told her that I'm not the kind of person who will compete with other people when it comes to liking someone. If the person I like has many suitors or admirers, I tend to disappear and not like the person anymore. What she did? She started eating at home every lunchbreak just to avoid the workmate guy who is liking her (only two of them have the same lunch time). She even showed to her workmates one time that we're talking over the phone for 2 consecutive lunchbreaks at her workplace. I didn't tell her to do those. In fact, I don't mind if she eats or hang out with anyone. For some reason, I don't feel jealous anymore (I don't have the right in the first place.😜) Anyway, what she did proved that she likes me too and she's serious about it. I appreciated her desire and effort. 😊 She even told me not to be over protective and get rid of my insecurities.

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While waiting for that woman God is preparing for me. I have to continually develop and improve myself; and be the right person for that person.

On the other side, I want to stay single for now. Haha! Spend more time with myself, my furbabies, and my family.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Character Ethics

If we’re talking about “character”. What are the most you are proud of that you possess?

I am forgiving. I easily forgive. 

I love and trust human beings. I always believe in the goodness of their heart.

I am adventurous. I love discovering and learning new things.

“Do not do unto others what you don’t want others do unto you.”

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Beach house for the win!!! ^_^

I finally bought a residential land. It's not the usual residential lot a normal person can think of though.

It's a beach residential lot. ^_^ Love it!

Thank you God! Finally! To God be the glory!!! ^_^

I've prayed about this in the past and even forgotten about it after the heartbreak I had. But God has a different plan. 

I may not be able to buy a lot to start my own just yet. But I will have my own beach house in the future~! And I bought it not just for me, but also for my family. For us to have a vacation house here in Luzon, especially if one is unable to fly via plane.

And swerte naman ng next relationship ko. Haha! Meron na kaming getaway na malapit to unwind and relax if life is getting stressful. :)

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For now, I don't want to be in a relationship just yet. I want to enjoy my singlehood. Even though, I'm still praying for that one person God is preparing for me. Surely, she's also currently work-in-progress. In God's perfect time, we will meet and start a new chapter of our life. I'm not in a hurry. I will wait for that "the one".

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Making People Glad To do What You Want

Always make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

I knew a man who had refuse many invitations to speak, invitations extended by friends, invitations coming from people to whom he was obligated; and yet he did it so adroitly that the other person was at least contented with his refusal. How did he do it? Not by merely talking about the fact that he was too busy and too-this and too-that. No, after expressing his appreciation of the invitation and regretting his inability to accept it, he suggested a substitute speaker. In other words, he didn't give the other person any time to fell unhappy about the refusal. He immediately changed the other person's thoughts to some other speaker who could accept the invitation.

This techniques of giving titles and authority worked for Napoleon and it will work for you.

The effective leader should keep the following guidelines  in mind when it is necessary to change altitudes or behavior:

1. Be sincere. Do not promise anything that you cannot deliver. Forget about the benefits to yourself and concentrate on the benefits to the other person.

2. Know exactly what it is you want the other person really wants.

3. Be empathetic. Ask yourself what it is the other person really wants.

4. Consider the benefits that person will receive from doing what you suggest.

5. Match those benefits to the other person's wants.

6. When you make your request, put it in a form that will convey to the other person the idea that he personally will benefit.

It is naïve to believe you will always get a favorable reaction from other persons when you use these approaches, but the experience of most people shows that you are more likely to change attitudes this way than by not using these principles - and it you increase your successes by even a mere 10 percent, you have become 10 percent more effective as a leader than you  were before - and that is your benefit.

Principle 9: Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Make The Fault Seem Easy To Correct

Tell your child, your spouse, or your employee that he or she is stupid or dumb at a certain thing, has no gift for it, and is doing it all wrong, and  you have destroyed almost every incentive to try to improve. But use the opposite technique - be liberal with your encouragement, make the thing seem easy to do, let the other person know that you have faith in his ability to do it, that he has undeveloped flair for it - and he will practice until the dawn comes in the window in order to excel.

Principle 8: Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Give a Dog a Good Name

"The average person can be led readily if you have his or her respect and if you show that you respect that person for some kind of ability." - Samuel Vauclain

If you want to improve a person in a certain respect, act as though that particular trait were already one of his or her outstanding characteristics. 

"Assume a virtue, if you have it not." - Shakespeare

It might well to assume and state openly that other people have the virtue you want them to develop. Give them a fine reputation to live up to, and they will make prodigious efforts rather than see you disillusioned.

"Give a dog a bad name and you may as well hang him." But give him a good name - and see what happens!

Principle 7: Give the other persona fine reputation to live up to. 

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

How To Spur People On To Success

Why, I wonder, don't we use the same common sense when trying to change people that we use when trying to change dogs? Why don't we use meat instead of a whip?  Why don't we use praise instead of condemnation? Let us praise even the slightest improvement. That inspires the other person to keep on improving.

"Praise is like sunlight to the warm human spirit; we cannot flower and grow without it. And yet, while most of us are only too ready to apply to others the cold wind of criticism, we are somehow reluctant to give our fellow the warm sunshine of praise." - Jess Lair

History is replete with striking illustrations of the sheer witchery of praise.

Use of praise instead of criticism is the basic concept of B.F. Skinner's teachings. This great contemporary psychologist has shown by experiments with animals and with humans that when criticism is minimized and praise emphasized, the good things people do will be reinforced and the poorer things will atrophy for lack of attention.

Praising the slightest improvement in the children rather than condemning everything they did wrong.

Everybody likes to be praised, but when praised is specific, it comes across as sincere - not something the other person may be saying just to make one feel good.

Remember, we all crave appreciation and recognition, and will do almost anything to get it. But nobody wants insincerity. Nobody wants flattery.

The principles taught in this book will work only when they come from the heart. I am not advocating a bag of tricks. I am talking about a new way of life.

Talk about changing people. If you and I will inspire the people with whom we come in contact to a realization of the hidden treasures  they possess, we can do far more than change people. We can literally transform them.

You who are reading these lines possess powers of various sorts which you habitually fail to use; and one of these powers you are probably not using to the fullest extent is your magic ability to praise people and inspire them with a realization of their latent possibilities. 

Abilities wither under criticism; they blossom under encouragement.

Principle 6: Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise."

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Let The Other Person Save Face

Letting one save face! How important, how vitally important that is! And how few of us ever stop to think of it! We ride roughshod over the feelings of others, getting our own way, finding fault, issuing threats, criticizing a child or an employee in front  of others, even without considering the hurt to the other person's pride. Whereas a few minutes' thought, a considerate word or two, a genuine understanding of the other person's attitude, would go so far toward alleviating the sting!

Firing employees is not much fun. Getting fired is even less fun.

The effect on these people is one of disappointment and a feeling of being 'let down'.

Even if we are right and the other person is definitely wrong, we only destroy ego by causing someone to lose face.

"I have no right to say or do anything that diminishes a man in his own eyes. What matters is not what I think of him, but what he thinks of himself. Hurting a man in his dignity is a crime." - Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Principle 5: Let the other person save face.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

No One Likes To Take Orders

The man declared that during all that time he had never heard Owen D. Young give a direct order to anyone. He always gave suggestions, not orders. Owen D. Young never said, for example, "Do this or do that," or "Don't do this or don't do that." He would say, "You might consider this," or "Do you think that would work?"

He always gave people the opportunity to do things themselves; he never told his assistants to do things; he let them do them, let them learn from their mistakes.

A technique like that makes it easy for a person to correct errors. A technique like that saves a person's pride and gives him or her a feeling of importance. It encourages cooperation instead of rebellion.

Resentment caused by a brash order may last a long time - even if the order was given to correct an obviously bad situation.

Asking questions not only makes an order more palatable; it often stimulates the creativity of the persons whom you ask. People are more likely to accept an order if they have had a part in the decision that caused the order to be issued.

Principle 4: Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Talk About Your Own Mistakes First

It isn't nearly so difficult to listen to a recital of your faults if the person criticizing begins by humbly admitting that he, too, is far from impeccable.

If a few sentences humbling oneself and praising the other party can turn a haughty, insulted Kaiser into a staunch friend, imagine what humility and praise can do for you and me in our daily contacts. Rightfully used, they will work veritable miracles in human relations.

Admitting one's own mistakes - even when one hasn't corrected them - can help convince somebody to change his behavior. 

Principle 3: Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

How To Criticize - And Not Be Hated For It

Simply changing one three-letter word can often spell the difference between failure and success in changing people without giving offense or arousing resentment.

Many people begin their criticism with sincere praise followed by the word "but" and ending with a critical statement. This could easily overcome by changing the word "but" to "and".

Calling attention to one's mistakes indirectly works wonders with sensitive people who may resent bitterly any direct criticism.

Principle 2: Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

To my ex, thank you ☺️

ArtSector Trip wid Mom and Sis

If You Must Find Fault, This Is The Way To Begin

It is always easier to listen to unpleasant things after we have heard some praise of our good points.

Beginning with praise is like the dentist who begins his work with Novocain. The patient still gets a drilling, but the Novocain is pain-killing.

Principle 1: Begin with praise and honest appreciation.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

When Nothing Else Works, Try This

"The way to get things done is to stimulate competition. I do not mean in a sordid, money-getting way, but in the desire to excel." - Charles Schwab

The desire to excel! The challenge! Throwing down the gauntlet! An infallible way of appealing to people of spirit.

"All men have fears, but the brave put down their fears and go forward, sometimes to death, but always to victory." - King's Guard in ancient Greece

What greater challenge can be offered than the opportunity to overcome those fears?

"I have never found that pay and pay alone would either bring together or hold good people. I think it was the game itself." - Harvey S. Firestone

Frederic Herzberg studied in depth the work attitudes of thousand of people ranging from factory workers to senior executives. The most motivating factor - the one facet of the jobs that was most stimulating? Money? Good working conditions? Fringe benefits? No - not any of those. The one major factor that motivated people was the work itself. If the work was exciting and interesting, the worker looked forward to doing it and was motivated to do a good job.

That is what every successful person loves: the game. The chance for self-expression. The chance to prove his or her worth, to excel, to win. The desire to excel. The desire for a feeling of importance.

Principle 12: Throw down a challenge.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

The Movies Do It. TV Does It. Why Don't You Do It?

This is the day of dramatization. Merely stating a truth isn't enough. The truth has to be made vivid, interesting, dramatic. You have to use showmanship. The movies do it. Television does it. And you will have to do it if you want attention.

You can dramatize your ideas in business or in any other aspect of your life. It's easy.

It works in home life as well. When the old-time lover proposed to his sweetheart, did he just use words of love? No! He went down on his knees. That really showed he meant what he said. We don't propose on our knees anymore, but many suitors still set up a romantic atmosphere before they pop the question.

Dramatizing what you want works with children as well.

"If I had not dramatized to him the fact that I really wanted to see him, I would probably be still waiting for an appointment." - Ms. Wolf

"I was presenting the same facts this time that I had presented previously. But this time I was using dramatization, showmanship  - and what a difference it made." - Mr. Boynton 

Principle 11: Dramatize your ideas.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

An Appeal That Everybody Likes

The fact is that all people you meet have a high regard for themselves and like to be fine and unselfish in their own estimation. 

"A person usually has two reasons for doing a thing: one that sounds good and a real one." - Pierpont Morgan

The person himself will think of the real reason. You don't need to emphasize that. But all of us, being idealists at heart, like to think of motives that sound good. So, in order to change people, appeal to the nobler motives.

"When no information can be secured about the customer, the only sound basis on which to proceed is to assume that he or she is sincere, honest, truthful and willing and anxious to pay the charges, once convinced they are correct. People are honest and want to discharge their obligations. Individuals who are inclined to chisel will in most cases react favorably if you make them feel that you consider them honest, upright, and fair." - Mr. Thomas

Principle 10:  Appeal to the nobler motives.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

What Everybody Wants

"I don't blame you one iota for feeling as you do. If I were you I would undoubtedly feel just as you do."

You deserve very little credit for being what you are - and remember, the people who come to you irritated, bigoted, unreasoning, deserve very little discredit for being what they are. Feel sorry for the poor devils. Pity them. Sympathize with them. Say to yourself: "There, but for the grace of God, go I."

Three-fourths of the people you will ever meet are hungering and thirsting for sympathy. Give it to them, and they will love you.

I said to myself, "After all, if I were she, I would probably feel just as she does." So, I determined to sympathize with her viewpoint.

I had the satisfaction of controlling my temper, the satisfaction of returning kindness for an insult.

"When you get a letter like that, the first thing you do is to think how you can be severe with a person who has committed an impropriety, or even been a little impertinent. Then you may compose an answer. Then if you are wise, you will put the letter in a drawer and lock the drawer. Take it out in the course of two days - such communications will always bear two days' delay in answering - and when you take it out after the interval, you will not send it." - Taft

"Sympathy the human species universally craves. The child eagerly displays his injury; or even inflicts a cut or bruise in order to reap abundant sympathy. For the same purpose adults show their bruises, relate their accidents, illness, especially details of surgical operations. 'Self-pity' for misfortunes real or imaginary is, in some measure, practically a universal practice." - Dr. Arthur I. Gates

Principle 9: Be sympathetic with other person's ideas and desires.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

A Formula That Will Work Wonders For You

Remember that other people may be totally wrong. But they don't think so. Don't condemn them. Any fool can do that. Try to understand them. Only wise, tolerant, exceptional people even try to do that.

There is a reason why the other man thinks and acts as he does. Ferret out the reason - and you have the key to his actions, perhaps to his personality.

Try honestly to put yourself in his place. "How would I feel, how would I react if I were in his shoes?" you will save yourself time and irritation, for "by becoming interested in the cause, we are less likely to dislike the effect."

Success in dealing with people depends on a sympathetic grasp of the other person's viewpoint.

 "Cooperativeness in conversation is achieved when you show that you consider the other person's ideas and feelings as important as your own. Starting your conversation by giving the other person the purpose or direction of your conversation, governing what you say by what you would want to hear if you were the listener, and accepting his or her viewpoint will encourage the listener to have an open mind to your ideas." - Dr. Gerald Nirenberg

Seeing things through another person's eyes may ease tensions when personal problems become overwhelming.

"Why should he or she want to do it?" True, this will take time, but it will avoid making enemies and will get better results - and with less friction and less shoe leather.

To think always in terms of the other person's point of view, and see things from that person's angle as well as your own.

Principle 8: Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

How To Get Cooperation

No one likes to feel that he or she is being sold something or told to do a thing. We much prefer to feel that we are buying of our own accord or acting on our own ideas. We like to be consulted about our wishes, our wants, our thoughts.

Letting the other person feel that the idea is his or hers not only works in business and politics, it works in family life as well. 

"In every work of genius we recognize our own rejected thoughts; they come back to us with a certain alienated majesty." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

"The best way to convert him to an idea was to plant it in his mind casually, but so as to interest him in it - so as to get him thinking about it on his own account." - Col. Edward House

The others had been trying to sell me on their service, but one let me sell myself.

Principle 7: Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Good job Rove!

Hey Blog!

Just want to tell you that God granted my wish and prayer. I have finally moved on from Cha last month. Also was able to recover from my physical illness. All the hard work and prayers paid off. 

What I did? Detached myself from the social media. Learned and began practicing meditation - I still do it everyday. I even did it twice a day. I started practicing mindfulness. Then I started working out 2-3x a week and avoided junk food and drinks (inc. fast food). I also began reading business books and writing my thoughts in my blog. When I feel lonely or sad, I just embrace the feeling, pray, and meditate. And also to help my mental health from falling into depression (because of pandemic), I started taking anti-depressant every other day. I started being grateful and generous with ILYs to my loved ones.

Lastly, acceptance and forgiveness. I always ensure that I only think is the present. I avoid thinking about the past nor the future. Mindfulness.

I am recovering fast. Thank you God and I love you. I now enjoy being single and alone. ^_^

Aside from this, I am also praying for the person God is preparing for me. Praying that she should be my last and only person I would like to spend the rest of my life with. And I can wait. Patience is a virtue.

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As for Cha, I tried reaching out to her since we had misunderstanding last July 27 until now. But what can I do if the person doesn't want to be reached out? I also cannot give Moo, Rain, nor Katkat to her. Why? She failed to ask how they were doing for the past few weeks (Jul-Aug). Now that they are doing good without her, she's going to get them? Na-ah. She can only borrow Tiger, Api, or Roshi. For the rest, I will not let her borrow them. She might not return them. 

Even though I don't know her reasons why she did all that, I deeply understand her. If I were in her shoes, I might probably do the same. But past is past. What we can all do is to move forward.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

The Safety Valve In Handling Complaints

Most people trying to win to their way of thinking do too much talking themselves. Let the other person talk themselves out. They know more about their business and problems than you do. So ask them questions. Let them tell you a few things.

If you disagree with them you may be tempted to interrupt. But don't. It is dangerous. They won't pay attention to you while they still have a lot of ideas of their own crying for expression. So listen patiently and with an open mind. Be sincere about it. Encourage them to express their ideas fully.

He showed an interest in the other person and his problems. He encouraged the other person to do most of the talking - and made a favorable impression.

Even our friends would much rather talk to us about their achievements than listen to us boast about ours.

"If you want enemies, excel your friends; but if you want friends, let your friends excel you." - La Rochefoucauld

Because when our friends excel us, they feel important; but when we excel them, they - or at least some of them - will feel inferior and envious. 

Principle 6: Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

I love myself 😊

After チャ left me and found out about that "Daryl incident", many plans have changed. I didn't push through anymore buying a residential lot for us. I also gave up the idea of buying an engagement ring and propose to her. Also gave up the idea of helping her buy the condo in Cambridge. I then decided to continue my Masters and just finish it. Then will apply abroad after pandemic.

I was deeply heartbroken and fell ill. I didn't give up life despite that. I started working out, meditating, having healthy lifestyle (eat nutritious food), and reading and learning. And when working out and meditating were not enough, I started taking my anti-depressant medicine every other day. Now, I feel good almost everyday. Whenever I feel sad or lonely, I just acknowledge the feeling and embrace it. I love being single, spending time alone and with my family. I went back to being generous in saying "I love you" to my parents, my siblings, my furbabies, and others. 😁 Feel so good expressing your love to your loved ones. I can still make myself smile and laugh - jamming to the music and dancing alone. Haha! And when I'm bored and nothing to do nor talk to, I just read. 😉

I am healing fast. I just have to stay in the present. Avoid thinking about the past and thinking much about the future. Also don't expect anything. 😁

The Secret of Socrates

In talking with people, don't begin by discussing the things on which you differ. Keep emphasizing, if possible, that you are both striving for the same end and that your only difference is one of method and not of purpose.

Keep your opponent, if possible, from saying "No". A "No" response is a most difficult handicap to overcome. When you have said, "No", all your pride of personality demands that you remain consistent with yourself. Once having said a thing, you feel you must stick to it.

 When a person says "Yes," none of the withdrawal activities takes place. The organism is in a forward-moving, accepting, open attitude. 

It often seems as if people get a sense of their own importance by antagonizing others at the outset.

"I finally learned that it doesn't pay to argue, that it is much more profitable and much more interesting to look at things from the other person's viewpoint and try to get that person saying 'yes, yes'." - Joseph Allison

Socratic method was based upon getting a "yes, yes" response. He asked questions with which his opponent would have to agree. He kept on winning one admission after another until he had an armful of yeses. He kept on asking questions until finally, almost without realizing it, his opponents found themselves embracing a conclusion they would have bitterly denied a few minutes previously.

"He who treads softly goes far." - Chinese Proverb

Principle 5: Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

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A Drop of Honey

If your temper is aroused and you tell 'em a thing or two, you will have a fine time unloading your feelings. But what about the other person? Will he share your pleasure? Will your belligerent tones, your hostile attitude, make it easy for him to agree with you?

"'Let us sit down and take counsel together, and, if we differ from each other, understand why it is that we differ, just what the points at issue are,' we will presently find that we are not so far apart after all, that the points on which we differ are few and the points on which we agree are many, and that if we only have the patience and the candor and the desire to get together, we will get together." - Woodrow Wilson

"A drop of honey catches more flies than a gallon of gall." So with men, if you would win a man to your cause, first convince him that you are his sincere friend. Therein is a drop of honey that catches his heart; which, say what you will, is the great high road to his reason. - Lincoln

What friendliness always does: it begot friendliness.

Most powerful arguments with such friendly remarks as: "It will be for the jury to consider," "This may, perhaps, be worth thinking of," "Here are some facts that I trust you will not lose sight of," or "You, with your knowledge of human nature, will easily see the significance of these facts." No bulldozing. No high pressure methods. No attempt to force his opinions on others.

It was the friendly, sympathetic, appreciative approach that won.

The use of gentleness and friendliness is demonstrated day after day by people who have learned that a drop of honey catches more flies than a gallon of gall.

The sun can make you take off your coat more quickly than the wind; and kindliness, the friendly approach and appreciation can make people change their minds more readily than all the bluster and storming in the world.

Principle 4: Begin in a friendly way.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Might be true

Saw this shared by a colleague.

 

Baka nga, I'm the wrong person for her. And I thought the opposite, she's the right person for me.

Sad but true.

#ktnxbye

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

If You're Wrong, Admit It

Isn't it much easier to listen to self-criticism than to bear condemnation from alien lips?

Say about yourself all the derogatory things you know the other person is thinking or wants to say or intends to say - and say them before that person has a chance to say them. The chances are hundred to one that a generous, forgiving attitude will be taken and your mistakes will be minimized. 

There is a certain degree of satisfaction in having the courage to admit one's errors. It not only clears the air of guilt and defensiveness, but often helps solve the problem created by the error.

Any fool can try to defend his or her mistakes - and most fools do - but it raises one above the herd and gives one a feeling of nobility and exultation to admit one's mistakes.

"If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically." - Dale Carnegie

It might be too late to admit quickly but one can admit emphatically.

When we are right, let's try to win people gently and tactfully to our way of thinking, and when we are wrong - and that will be surprisingly often, if we are honest with ourselves - let's admit our mistakes quickly and with enthusiasm.

"By fighting you never get enough, but by yielding you get more than you expected."

Principle 3: If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

What a great way to start a morning 😆

Sana magdilang anghel ate ko. 😄 Kahit dun muna tayo sa "taong magmamahal". Hahaha!

On the other hand, di ko kailangan magmadali. I believe na there's one person out of 2 billion people here on Earth na nakatadhana satin. And God will make a way for us to meet that destined person no matter what happen and no matter which path we go.

Why I believe that? Because when I met Cha again, it's destiny. ^_^ And she’s still an important person in my life, a family and a little sister. ☺️ If lovelife, she has no problem. Mamili nalang sya sa mga nagkakagusto sa kanya. Hahaha!

Someone who made me realize some things

I admit, I had mistakes. I eventually said sorry to Cha.

This friend told me things na hindi ko naman nakkwento sa kanya. Maybe because magaling sya makabasa ng tao. And she made me realize some things.

"Di kapa maka-move on sa ex mo."

Yes, hindi pa ko nakaka move-on kay Cha. I don't know how and when. I believe on her so much that I wanted to have an honest conversation with her.

"Hangga't may trust issue ka, hindi ka makakakita ng forever mo."

If I really have trust issues, ba't lagi ako nabubudul budol at naloloko? I believe so much sa goodness ng human beings. I even disregard someone's past when I love someone. Her history will be my lessons to be a better partner for her. At I admit na I plan too much of the future that I don't give any chance to my partner to think and decide on her own life. It was my flaw and my mistake. And I don't want it to happen again if I really wanted to meet my "till death do us part" partner. I've learned that outside our world (romantic relationship), there are other worlds and relationships (friends and family).

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I have already accepted everything. And with His help, I am healing and already moving on. 😊 Naniniwala naman ako na yung taong nakatadhana sakin, kahit saang directions pa kami mapunta, magkikita at magkikita din kami. 

Pero bago yun, kelangan mayaman na ko at may sariling bahay na. At probably, meron na kong 100k spare cash to buy an engagement ring. Haha!

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

A Sure Way Of Making Enemies - And How to Avoid It

If you can't be sure of being right even 55 percent of the time, why should you tell other people they are wrong?

Never begin by announcing "I am going to prove so-and-so to you." That's bad. That's tantamount to saying, "I'm smarter that you are. I'm going to tell you a thing or two and make you change your mind."

If you are going to prove anything, don't let anybody know it. Do it so subtly , so adroitly, that no one will feel that you are doing it.

"You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him to find it within himself." - Galileo

"I may be wrong. I frequently am. Let's examine the facts."

You will never get into trouble by admitting that you may be wrong. That will stop all argument and inspire your opponent to be just as fair and open and broadminded as you are. It will make him want to admit that be, too, may be wrong.

When we are wrong , we may admit it to ourselves. And if we are handled gently and tactfully, we may admit it to others and even take pride in our frankness and broad-mindedness. 

"I am convinced now that nothing good is accomplished and a lot of damage can be done if you tell a person straight out that he or she is wrong. You only succeed in stripping that person of self-dignity and making yourself an unwelcome part of any discussion."

Two thousand years ago, Jesus said: "Agree with thine adversary quickly."

"Be diplomatic. It will help you gain your point." - King Akhtoi of Egypt

In other words, don't argue with your customer or your spouse or your adversary. Don't tell them they are wrong, don't get them stirred up. Use a little diplomacy.

Principle 2: Show respect  for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Thank you for everything ☺️

Rove, please forgive me for being harsh to you in the past. You deserve a peace of mind. Thank you for being a patient person and for being stronger each day. Thank you for not giving up on us. Thank you for reminding me each day that tomorrow is a new day and a better day than today. Thank you for telling me that true happiness comes within. Thank you for sharing your love to people around you. Thank you for everything! I love you Rove, my one true love.

New Life, New Living Space

I'm gonna show you the concept of my new bed-work space. ^_^

I'll have my foam be customized (size). Will still check the possible price. Haha!

All parts are removable - base, lower box, upper bed frame, and drawer stairs - so that I can bring them to my condo when I start going to office after pandemic. 

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

You Can't Win An Argument

Why prove to a man he is wrong? Is that going to make him like you? He didn't ask for your opinion. Why argue with him? Always avoid the acute angle.

To get the best of an argument - and that is to avoid it.

You can't win an argument.

"If you agree and rankle and contradict, you may achieve a victory sometimes; but it will be an empty victory because you will never get your opponent's good will." - Ben Franklin

He wanted a feeling of importance. 

"Hatred is never ended by hatred but by love." - Buddha

And misunderstanding is never ended by an argument but by tact, diplomacy, conciliation, and a sympathetic desire to see the other person's viewpoint.

Bits and Pieces

1. Welcome the disagreement. Remember the slogan, "When two partners always agree, one of them is not necessary." If there is some point you haven't thought about, be thankful if it is brought to your attention. Perhaps this disagreement is your opportunity to be corrected before you make a serious mistake.

2. Distrust your first instinctive impression. Our first natural reaction in a disagreeable situation is to be defensive. Be careful. Keep calm and watch out for your first reaction. It may be you at your worst, not your best.

3. Control your temper. Remember, you can measure the size of a person by what makes him or her angry.

4. Listen first. Give your opponents a chance to talk. Let them finish. Do not resist, defend or debate. This only raises barriers. Try to build bridges of understanding. Don't build higher barriers of misunderstanding. 

5. Look for areas of agreement. When you have heard your opponents out, dwell first on the points and areas on which you agree.

6. Be honest. Look for areas where you can admit error and say so. Apologize for your mistakes. It will help disarm your opponents and reduce defensiveness.

7. Promise to think over your opponents' ideas and study them carefully. And mean it. Your opponents might be right. It is a lot easier at this stage to agree to think about their points than to move rapidly ahead and find yourself in a position where your opponents can say: "We tried to tell you, but you wouldn't listen."

8. Think your opponents sincerely for their interest. Anyone who takes the time to disagree with you is interested in the same things you are. Think of them as people who really want to help you, and you may turn your opponents into friends.

9. Postpone action to give both sides time to think through the problem. Suggest that a new meeting be held later that day or the next day, when all the facts may be brought to bear. In preparation for this meeting, ask yourself some hard questions:

Could my opponents be right? Partly right? Is there truth or merit in their position or argument? Is my reaction one that will relieve the problem, or will it just relieve any frustration? Will my reaction drive my opponents further away or draw them closer to me? Will my reaction elevate the estimation good people have of me? Will I win or lose? What price will I have to pay if I win? If I am quiet about it, will the disagreement blow over? Is this difficult situation an opportunity for me?

When one yells, the other should listen - because when two people yell, there is no communication, just noise and bad vibrations.

Principle 1: The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

My right person

Funny. Just found out that one of my closest colleagues is also Agility. Now, 3 of us close colleagues/friends are single and are Agility. 😆

I was praying for the right person since I was 14yrs old. My first relationship, I thought she's the one I wanna marry. I was able to moved on after 5 yrs for a 6 mos relationship.

Then I thought, I don't want to have many exes before I met my The One. If possible, my 2nd one will be my last. After 5 yrs of relationship, I was about to propose, then something came to light - that I was lied to again for I don't know how long. I don't really know everything and I deeply understand her.

God, for the 3rd time, please don't let me fall to a wrong person. This time, please let me end up with the person I will surely be with for the rest of my life. Sana this time, makapag-propose na ko and get married with my right woman. 🙏

I will wait patiently. When she comes, I hope I'll notice her. She might be in AU. 😉

Be patient. The best has yet to come.

I don't know anything at all. But I think I understand.

YES! God is preparing something greater than any human can think of. I just have to be patient. Been praying for the right partner since 14 years old.

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So thankful to my anti-depressant med and my discipline to have healthy lifestyle - workout 2-3x a week, meditate everyday, avoid sweets, no softdrinks, no junk food, quality time with family and furbabies, and smile.

It's okay to not feel good everyday. I just have to embrace all the emotions I am feeling including sadness and loneliness.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D