Rove 3.0

I had a blast at a friend's house. My friend's partner's family and relatives are very welcoming and funny.

My friend told me, "Let go of the old Rove."

"The role you've been holding on when you were a kid - the eldest. You are possessive, overprotective, controlling, and bossy. Never reason out that it's because you're the eldest. All 'over' is not good."

Told my friend that as the eldest, I should maintain the proper image - be formal and be a role model to my siblings. I should not show any kind of weaknesses.

But my friend said, "It's okay to show weakness, you're just a human being. You don't have to always act strong when in fact, you are bleeding inside."

Maybe, when I realized my other siblings are already old enough, I unconsciously treated my partner the same way I treated my siblings when they were young.

Also my friend told me, "Separate work from personal life. Even you're a PM, it doesn't mean you should also PM your family and your partner. Once you logged off from your computer, you are back to the real Rove - a family and loved one - and not the professional PM. Also, try to learn to shift back to Rove everytime your are talking to your loved ones."

Added, "Always remember that you just have to give opinions or suggestions to your family and loved ones, don't push them to follow you. They have their own mind to decide. Your partner must be 'choking' of your controlling. Get rid of that! You don't own them. You own yourself! Don't be perfectionist too. Sometimes, you have to let things flow. And loosen up a bit."

I thank God for this friend. I've never thought that I've doing things wrong in my entire life. I realized, I might probably be stuck to the teanager Rove who thinks that the eldest should be held responsible for the wellness of the younger siblings.

I should grab this opportunity to change, be Rove 3.0. So help me God.