チャ finally talked to me earlier. I treated them dinner first.
The things I gotta tell? My 3 promises:
1. I will wait for her, may it be 5, 10, or 15 yrs. I will wait but I will not expect that I will be chosen.
2. I will support her throughout her race towards her dreams and goals. Support includes, mental, emotional, spiritual, and financial health. I am not expecting anything in return. I just to want to see her become the CPA Lawyer she dreamt of.
3. I will take care of her wellness - mental and emotional.
I told her that when law school becomes tough, she can resign from work and I can finance her cost of living while she's studying. Supporting her will give me a sense of accomplishment, that I've done significant on this earth.
Conversing with her, I noticed that she's not the alert or high spirited Cha I used to know. You'll notice that she's more tense now and looks like having mental/emotional crisis. Why? Her physical body is not feeling good too. She needs to take her body so that her brain will follow. I can sense the high level anxiety, feeling of needing validation from external forces. (What am I saying? 😆) You cannot see the confidence coming from within, it's coming from outside validation. What made me think this way? I mentioned some little lies when we're talking. And she didn't notice that I was lying. She's very gullible now. The alert Cha will notice right away that I was lying because she knows me. She can easily catch when people are just saying half truth or not at all. Or better yet, some people will notice it right away just by looking at my face. She's stressed and having symptoms of depression and anxiety. I'm not a psychologist or psychiatrist but I once had a mental illness. With that, I can at least notice the same people through their behaviors.
What can I do now? What would Jesus do?
Stay by her side by letting her feel your presence. Assuring her that you are always there for her. Let's boost her confidence within herself little by little by giving her hope and strength that there are people other there that can support her big time and love her unconditionally.
We’ve talked about the fake engagement they had. It’s a promotional video. I told her that it’s better to tell the truth to people she’s close with than keep it a secret. It involves one’s integrity and no money can buy integrity. It’s like having a joke about the death of your relative. She said that they will only do it for 3 weeks. Then they will announce the truth. I just said, “Hope it worth every penny.” And she responded, “Okay lang yan. Friend ko naman.” For the sake of friendship, you will tire yourself for free. Unreasonable demonstration of selflessness. Maybe this is why she didn’t tell me because I will nag her. Hahaha!
I also told her I have a secret to tell but I will tell it in time - when she’s already a CPA. It’s about the ref I bought. 😆 And the secret money transfer to her account as added allowance. I have officially started the Daddy Long Legs thing. 😁
The things I gotta tell? My 3 promises:
1. I will wait for her, may it be 5, 10, or 15 yrs. I will wait but I will not expect that I will be chosen.
2. I will support her throughout her race towards her dreams and goals. Support includes, mental, emotional, spiritual, and financial health. I am not expecting anything in return. I just to want to see her become the CPA Lawyer she dreamt of.
3. I will take care of her wellness - mental and emotional.
I told her that when law school becomes tough, she can resign from work and I can finance her cost of living while she's studying. Supporting her will give me a sense of accomplishment, that I've done significant on this earth.
Conversing with her, I noticed that she's not the alert or high spirited Cha I used to know. You'll notice that she's more tense now and looks like having mental/emotional crisis. Why? Her physical body is not feeling good too. She needs to take her body so that her brain will follow. I can sense the high level anxiety, feeling of needing validation from external forces. (What am I saying? 😆) You cannot see the confidence coming from within, it's coming from outside validation. What made me think this way? I mentioned some little lies when we're talking. And she didn't notice that I was lying. She's very gullible now. The alert Cha will notice right away that I was lying because she knows me. She can easily catch when people are just saying half truth or not at all. Or better yet, some people will notice it right away just by looking at my face. She's stressed and having symptoms of depression and anxiety. I'm not a psychologist or psychiatrist but I once had a mental illness. With that, I can at least notice the same people through their behaviors.
What can I do now? What would Jesus do?
Stay by her side by letting her feel your presence. Assuring her that you are always there for her. Let's boost her confidence within herself little by little by giving her hope and strength that there are people other there that can support her big time and love her unconditionally.
We’ve talked about the fake engagement they had. It’s a promotional video. I told her that it’s better to tell the truth to people she’s close with than keep it a secret. It involves one’s integrity and no money can buy integrity. It’s like having a joke about the death of your relative. She said that they will only do it for 3 weeks. Then they will announce the truth. I just said, “Hope it worth every penny.” And she responded, “Okay lang yan. Friend ko naman.” For the sake of friendship, you will tire yourself for free. Unreasonable demonstration of selflessness. Maybe this is why she didn’t tell me because I will nag her. Hahaha!
I also told her I have a secret to tell but I will tell it in time - when she’s already a CPA. It’s about the ref I bought. 😆 And the secret money transfer to her account as added allowance. I have officially started the Daddy Long Legs thing. 😁
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