How to make people like you instantly

“What is there about him that I can honestly admire?” That is sometimes a hard question to answer, especially with strangers; but in this case, it happened to be easy. I instantly saw something I admired no end.

There is one all-important law of human conduct. If we obey that law, we shall almost never get into trouble. In fact, that law, if obeyed, will bring us countless friends and constant happiness. But the very instant we break the law, we shall get into endless trouble. The law is this: Always make the other person feel important.

You want to approval of those with whom you come in contact. You want recognition of your true worth. You want a feeling that you are important in your little world. You don’t want to listen to cheap, insincere flattery, but you do crave sincere appreciation. You want your friends and associates to be “hearty in their approbation and lavish in their praise”. All of us want that.

So let’s obey the Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you,” all the time.

Little phrases such as “I’m sorry to trouble you,” “Would you be so kind to ---?” “Won’t you please?” “Would you mind?” “Thank you” – little courtesies like these oil the cogs of the monotonous grind of everyday life – and, incidentally, they are the hallmark of good breeding.

Such is the power, the stupendous power, of sincere, heartfelt appreciation.

The life of many a person could probably be changed if only someone would make him feel important.

The unvarnished truth is that almost all the people you meet feel themselves superior to you in some way, and a sure way to their hearts is to let them realize in some subtle way that you recognize their importance, and recognize it sincerely.

Emerson, “Every man I meet is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of him.”

Principle 6: Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

How to Interest People

Royal road to a person’s heart is to talk about the things he or she treasures the most.

Talking in terms of the other person’s interests pays off for both parties.

Principle 5: Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.

Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

An easy way to become a good conversationalist

Listened intently. Genuinely interested. That kind of listening is one of the highest compliments we can pay anyone.

“Few human beings are proof against the implied flattery of rapt attention.” – Jack Woodford

“There is not mystery about successful business intercourse. Exclusive attention to the person who is speaking to you is very important. Nothing else is so flattering as that.” – Charles W. Eliot

Listening is just as important in one’s home life as in the world of business.

“They have been so much concerned with what they are going to say next that they do not keep their ears open. Very important people have told me that they prefer good listeners to good talkers, but the ability to listen seems rarer than almost any other good trait.” – Isaac F. Marcosson

If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener. To be interesting, be interested. Ask questions that other persons will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.

Principle 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

If you don't do this, you are headed for trouble

The average person is more interested in his or her own name than in all the other names on earth put together.

Remember that name and call it easily, and you have paid a subtle and very effective compliment. But forget it or misspell it – and you have placed yourself at a sharp disadvantage.

Sometimes it is difficult to remember a name, particularly if it is hard to pronounce. Rather than even try to learn it, many people ignore It or call the person by an easy nickname.

The bigger a corporation gets, the colder it becomes. “One way to warm it up is to remember people’s names. The executive who tells me he can’t remember names is at the same time telling me he can’t remember a significant part of his business and is operating on quicksand.” – Benton Love

People are so proud of their names that they strive to perpetuate them at any cost.

Most people don’t remember names, for the simple reason that they don’t take the time and energy necessary to concentrate and repeat and fix names indelibly in their minds. They make excuses for themselves; they are too busy.

Half of the time we are introduced to a stranger, we chat a few minutes and can’t even remember his or her name by the time we say goodbye.

We should be aware of the magic contained n a name and realize that this single item is wholly and completely owned by the person with whom we are dealing and nobody else.

Principle 3: Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

A Simple Way To Make A Good Impression

The expression one wears on one’s face is far more important that the clothes one wears on one’s back.

Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, “I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you.”

“People who smile tend to manage, teach, and sell more effectively, and to raise happier children. There’s far more information in a smile than a frown. That’s why encouragement is a much more effective teaching device than punishment.” – Professor James V. McConnell

You must have a good time meeting people if you expect them to have a good time meeting you.

“Actions seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not.” – William James

Everybody in the world is seeking happiness – and there is one sure way to find it. That is by controlling your thoughts. Happiness doesn’t depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions.

It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.

Your smile is a messenger of your good will. Your smile brightens the lives of all who see it.

 Principle 2: Smile.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Do this and you'll be welcome anywhere

You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people that you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.

"It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring." - Alfred Adler

One can win the attention and time and cooperation of even the most sought-after people by becoming genuinely interested in them.

All of us, be we workers in a factory, clerks in an office or even a king upon the throne - all of us like people who admire us. 

If we want to make friends, let's put ourselves out to do things for other people - things that require time, energy, unselfishness, and thoughtfulness.

If we want to make friends, let's greet people with animation and enthusiasm.

"We are interested in others when they are interested in us." - Publilius Syrus

A show of interest, as with every other principle of human relations, must be sincere. It must pay off not only for the person showing the interest, but for the person receiving the attention. It is a two-way street - both parties benefit.

Principle 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.

Nothing is impossible with Him. =D