Love is a Verb

I don't want her to feel that I used her to move on from my past relationship. Because I really did not. I made sure I already moved on before I start liking someone else. And I don't really mind being single since I enjoy my own company. It's just God finally introduced to me my right person. And I can say that we're both mature now and still in-progress. We've been to few fights already but we were able to reconcile because we have to compromise if we really want to love each other. "Love is a verb." We both don't want to fight and have misunderstanding as they cause physical pain to us. 

Let's see how our relationship will work during and after the pandemic. We just have to maintain open and good communications.

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Thoughts when I randomly checked the pics of the backup zip file of me and my ex's FB.

I don't have any regrets about my relationship with my recent ex. I was so immature back then. Thanks to her and to the experience, I've learned a lot. And I feel sorry for her. :( 

Now, I think I've found my right person. Every time I think of Carol, my heart literally aches. I didn't feel the same with other persons during my entire life - except when I got really hurt emotionally and mentally. Haha.

We both know our worth that’s why we don’t chase people anymore. I think it’s fate that made us closer together.

Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

3 Decades of Adventures! (Happy Birthday!)

Hey! I got a birthday escapade for my 3 decades! 

Went to Batangas with family. I had bad migraine though on the first day that's why I was only sleeping the whole night from late afternoon. 😔 I was also not able to eat dinner because I got bad stomach (vomited the food I ate that time). The next day, Oct 17, I was able to eat well and swam in the morning! 😀 I don't know how to equalize anymore when I free dived. 😕

My phone's signal wasn't working from the time we arrived in Batangas on Friday. I received few SMS and miscall from Carol on Oct 16th. Then the only call and SMS I received on 17th are from Cha. I'm not sure what happened though. Haha! Cha has still a special space in my phone and in heart too. She's a family. 😊

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We celebrated again on the 18th, Sunday, at home with samgyupsal party and some Soju. This time with my father and other nephews who were left at home. 😁

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Also on this day, Carol finally said "yes" after few days of "thinking". 😅😆 We're now officially a couple. 😊 Not sure how will this work, the LDR. It's my first time. 😅 But I don't wanna pressure her or myself. Because it's pandemic, we know it's not possible to fly and see each other. Again, we have to be patient until the day we can see each other again in person. When we fell in love, we didn't put so much effort into it. It's like the destiny was working for us to talk and hangout (even virtually). And again, just like what she always say, "if it's meant to be, it's meant to be, whatever happens". But she was the one who first initiated and wooed me. Hahaha! Guess what? What's our call sign? (I didn't know at first that term, "call sign". Just learnt it from her. 😆) "LOVE" 😨 It makes me cringe every time. But I have no choice, that's what she wants. 😅

I'm still praying that I've already found my "The One" that God has been preparing for me. If Carol is still not the woman destined for me, I don't know anymore. Haha! I've already laid all my plans and my life to Him.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

In His Perfect Time

I remembered the time I asked God why He allowed someone I love to leave and why we didn’t work.

Then, God taught me to look at the bigger picture of why He had to put an end to that story.

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Sometimes, you might feel God has destroyed your plans and left you empty and broken.

Yet, you don’t have to regret who’d left nor what you’d lost.

No matter how much you loved that person, or how many years you’ve spent together, these are not enough reasons to hold on IF that is NOT the will of God for you.

“God will save you from the wrong person, to save you for the right one. “

God will give you the right person He perfectly chosen for you. (Genesis 2:18)

A right person who will love you with HIS perfect love.

So never regret who and what you’ve lost, bcoz it is more regretful if you miss the right person God has for you.

God knows better WHO is the best for you.

And He will surely lead that person to you in His own way and His own time simply because He promised a good future for you. Jeremiah 29:11

Remember, out of God’s amazing love & grace, you deserve nothing but the best.

So to you who is waiting,

be grateful, remain faithful and preserve yourself for the right one just as what God is doing for you right now.

Soon, I pray, you’ll praise God and say “Thank you Lord that you save me for the best one.”

Glorify God from this day and when that day comes!

“and call upon me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you shall glorify me.””

‭‭Psalm‬ ‭50:15‬ ‭

God bless you, 𝓯𝓪𝓲𝓽𝓱𝓯𝓾𝓵 𝓸𝓷𝓮.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

In God's Plan (Seek Him First)

Why I decided to move on last Aug 2020?

Because I already fell ill physically (non-critical cyst), not just mentally and emotionally. I already got tired chasing (suyuin) the person I loved. That I finally realized that I love myself more and I should know my worth. That I don't have to force myself to someone who doesn't even care or want me.

I worked hard for the whole month of August. Meditation, workout, doctor check-ups, anti-depressive meds, read books, and family time. I dedicated myself to these, detached myself from the social media world. I was able to heal fast, also with the help of prayers and avoided the thoughts of past. I am very happy as single.

Sep 2020. I reconnected with a friend, Carol. Fast forward, we're now good friends. We both like each other. But we're not yet in a relationship nor in a commitment. We're both cautious (and probably don't want commitment yet) because we both want our next relationship will be our last one. That the next one would be the person we will be with for the rest of our lives. No ILYs, kisses, nor Good mornings yet. These words are precious to me and I only want to say them to my official partner - I guess she is too. 

Told her that since it's not yet possible for us to see each other, we'll just enjoy each other's company as good friends online. If we're really destined to be together, in God's perfect time, we'll meet again. And if she's the woman God is preparing for me and I'm the person that's been preparing by God for her, then we will end up together. And if we're only destined to be good friends, that's okay. God knows best. 😃 All in His perfect time.

Love is patient. Love is kind.

P.S. Ayaw ko parin magsalita ng tapos. Baka iba plan ni God in the end. Pinasa-Diyos ko na lahat ng decisions and takbo ng buhay ko. Aminado narin naman ako na late bloomer ako at hopeless romantic. Pero alam ko sa sarili ko na I'm a loyal and faithful person. And I always think that the person I will love is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with.

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"Well.. I know my worth at alam ko ano kaya ko gawin kasi sa tao.. para mahalin ako." - Carol

Nope, pinakita at pinaramdam mo lang sa tao yung worth nya. 

"Kelan kaya sya mag sasabi ng I LOVE YOU 🤣😂" - Carol

If He permits and in His perfect timing.

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What makes me like her?

She's funny. I can probably laugh all day just by talking to her. She's a straightforward person. They may hurt a little but they made me realized few things about my life and I appreciated it. She's an extrovert and I think, a mature person.

Few weeks I ago, I told her that I'm not the kind of person who will compete with other people when it comes to liking someone. If the person I like has many suitors or admirers, I tend to disappear and not like the person anymore. What she did? She started eating at home every lunchbreak just to avoid the workmate guy who is liking her (only two of them have the same lunch time). She even showed to her workmates one time that we're talking over the phone for 2 consecutive lunchbreaks at her workplace. I didn't tell her to do those. In fact, I don't mind if she eats or hang out with anyone. For some reason, I don't feel jealous anymore (I don't have the right in the first place.😜) Anyway, what she did proved that she likes me too and she's serious about it. I appreciated her desire and effort. 😊 She even told me not to be over protective and get rid of my insecurities.

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While waiting for that woman God is preparing for me. I have to continually develop and improve myself; and be the right person for that person.

On the other side, I want to stay single for now. Haha! Spend more time with myself, my furbabies, and my family.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

What a great way to start a morning 😆

Sana magdilang anghel ate ko. 😄 Kahit dun muna tayo sa "taong magmamahal". Hahaha!

On the other hand, di ko kailangan magmadali. I believe na there's one person out of 2 billion people here on Earth na nakatadhana satin. And God will make a way for us to meet that destined person no matter what happen and no matter which path we go.

Why I believe that? Because when I met Cha again, it's destiny. ^_^ And she’s still an important person in my life, a family and a little sister. ☺️ If lovelife, she has no problem. Mamili nalang sya sa mga nagkakagusto sa kanya. Hahaha!

Someone who made me realize some things

I admit, I had mistakes. I eventually said sorry to Cha.

This friend told me things na hindi ko naman nakkwento sa kanya. Maybe because magaling sya makabasa ng tao. And she made me realize some things.

"Di kapa maka-move on sa ex mo."

Yes, hindi pa ko nakaka move-on kay Cha. I don't know how and when. I believe on her so much that I wanted to have an honest conversation with her.

"Hangga't may trust issue ka, hindi ka makakakita ng forever mo."

If I really have trust issues, ba't lagi ako nabubudul budol at naloloko? I believe so much sa goodness ng human beings. I even disregard someone's past when I love someone. Her history will be my lessons to be a better partner for her. At I admit na I plan too much of the future that I don't give any chance to my partner to think and decide on her own life. It was my flaw and my mistake. And I don't want it to happen again if I really wanted to meet my "till death do us part" partner. I've learned that outside our world (romantic relationship), there are other worlds and relationships (friends and family).

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I have already accepted everything. And with His help, I am healing and already moving on. 😊 Naniniwala naman ako na yung taong nakatadhana sakin, kahit saang directions pa kami mapunta, magkikita at magkikita din kami. 

Pero bago yun, kelangan mayaman na ko at may sariling bahay na. At probably, meron na kong 100k spare cash to buy an engagement ring. Haha!

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

My right person

Funny. Just found out that one of my closest colleagues is also Agility. Now, 3 of us close colleagues/friends are single and are Agility. 😆

I was praying for the right person since I was 14yrs old. My first relationship, I thought she's the one I wanna marry. I was able to moved on after 5 yrs for a 6 mos relationship.

Then I thought, I don't want to have many exes before I met my The One. If possible, my 2nd one will be my last. After 5 yrs of relationship, I was about to propose, then something came to light - that I was lied to again for I don't know how long. I don't really know everything and I deeply understand her.

God, for the 3rd time, please don't let me fall to a wrong person. This time, please let me end up with the person I will surely be with for the rest of my life. Sana this time, makapag-propose na ko and get married with my right woman. 🙏

I will wait patiently. When she comes, I hope I'll notice her. She might be in AU. 😉

Cheesy Talk (most hated topic ever)

Let’s talk about Rove’s current lovelife. Dahil other aspect of her life, so far so good. Haha!

Here it goes...

You know what, kung hindi nagloko si Cha, I will still wait for her. And she will still be the person I would like to spend the rest of my life with. Pero dahil sa “I love yous” nila nung July 27-29 without any sorry from her, I changed my mind. I don’t have any idea when naging sila ni Daryl. And if naging sila before naging kami, that’s fine. But if may affairs (“Friends with Benefits” or MU) sila while kami ni Cha (Jun 12, 2015 - Aug 19, 2020), it’s another topic.

Tanggap ko na. Na real man talaga gusto ni Cha. She will never end up with someone like me - not straight. Kasi if she’s really okay with someone like me, she will never have affairs with guys anymore (or other gals).

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A friend of over a year now seems likes me. Lagi sya bumabanat pero di ko pinapatulan. Because I still love Cha. And I haven’t moved on yet. Di ko talaga kaya yung magkagusto sa more than one person, I only have one heart. And if I will try to like her too, I need to wait for how many months first. As a sign of self-respect and respect to my ex, I should ensure that no more baggages from the past when I start pursuing a person. I should make peace from the past para we can all move forward. I think okay naman sya. She’s very independent and dependable. I don’t find her sweet but she has a strong personality. I could say that she’s financially capable. And she’s very mature, more mature than me though I am older. 😆 

But the thing is, she still doesn’t know yet about Venice and how many furbabies I have. She knows I have cats but the pets’ total number, na-ah. This is the deal breaker. I think she can like Venice. She has a fostered son. But my furbabies, I don’t think she’s a cat lover - a dog maybe. And I cannot be with someone who cannot accept both Venice and all my furbabies. 😕

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On the other hand, I already have a plan going to AU to study, work, and live for good. And once I am already settled there, maybe that’s the time I can go on dates. I will be in another sea, many different women I can meet. I will bring Venice and my furbabies there. So as for Cha or my friend, one might be in the scene or not, or both not.

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Ayaw ko magsalita ng tapos. Ilang beses narin naudlot pag-aabroad ko - sa hindi mapaliwanag na dahilan. 😆 Yung nag SG ako, I thought dun na ko for good. Pero napauwi ako. Then nakilala ko si Cha less than 4yrs later. Then yung mag JP sana ko, nakakagulat nangyari sa school (nobody is expecting that to happen). I thought sandali lang love story namin ni Cha. Pero naudlot na naman at nagtuluy tuloy kami ni Cha. This time, sana swertihan na ko. Pero kung may better plan si God, dun ako syempre. 😁

Whatever plan a man has, God’s plan will always prevail.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Should I?

I held on so long because I love you. That I thought I will be able to help you become mature and change for the better. That I thought I will be able to make you feel contented and secured with just me.

Should I give up?

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Not "make you happy" - happiness found within, not externally.

No lovelife until I have more than 5M worth of assets

Felt so devastated. Why ? Why am I experiencing this again ?

(Rove, you asked for more predicaments from

God right? He's just testing your resiliency by targeting your weaknesses. You have to learn to overcome it and probably change your actions / mindset to be better.)

Okay. Have to think that it's part of His test. I need to be more compassionate and understanding to his children - and that includes チャ.

(Remember: God and Jesus know that Judas will betray them but They chose him anyway. Because They know his heart - deep within is a good person.)

Be like Christ. Grow in Christ. Seek God's guidance and He will make your path straight.

Okay. Should get back to being 'no messaging app' lifestyle. I don't wanna talk to anyone anymore except for my family. Got to delete again these Online Dating Apps I just downloaded now. 😒 Will get back to dating scene once the world has cured from this pandemic. Got to re-align my mind to my goals. My goals are more important than my personal lovelife. Got to be rich and have financial freedom before I reach the age of 40.

"No lovelife until I have more than 5M worth of personal assets."

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*Personal assets, because I already have more than 5M worth of assets from my parents.