“What is there about him that I can honestly admire?” That
is sometimes a hard question to answer, especially with strangers; but in this
case, it happened to be easy. I instantly saw something I admired no end.
There is one all-important law of human conduct. If we obey
that law, we shall almost never get into trouble. In fact, that law, if obeyed,
will bring us countless friends and constant happiness. But the very instant we
break the law, we shall get into endless trouble. The law is this: Always make
the other person feel important.
You want to approval of those with whom you come in contact.
You want recognition of your true worth. You want a feeling that you are
important in your little world. You don’t want to listen to cheap, insincere
flattery, but you do crave sincere appreciation. You want your friends and
associates to be “hearty in their approbation and lavish in their praise”. All of
us want that.
So let’s obey the Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would
have others do unto you,” all the time.
Little phrases such as “I’m sorry to trouble you,” “Would
you be so kind to ---?” “Won’t you please?” “Would you mind?” “Thank you” –
little courtesies like these oil the cogs of the monotonous grind of everyday
life – and, incidentally, they are the hallmark of good breeding.
Such is the power, the stupendous power, of sincere,
heartfelt appreciation.
The life of many a person could probably be changed if only
someone would make him feel important.
The unvarnished truth is that almost all the people you meet
feel themselves superior to you in some way, and a sure way to their hearts is
to let them realize in some subtle way that you recognize their importance, and
recognize it sincerely.
Emerson, “Every man I meet is my superior in some way. In
that, I learn of him.”
Principle 6: Make the other person feel important – and do
it sincerely.
Royal road to a person’s heart is to talk about the things
he or she treasures the most.
Talking in terms of the other person’s interests pays off for
both parties.
Principle 5: Talk in terms of
the other person’s interests.
God, heal me and my loved ones. Thank you for everything - the life, the lessons, and the love. Amen!
“Hatred is never ended by hatred but by love.” -Buddha
Listened intently. Genuinely interested. That kind of
listening is one of the highest compliments we can pay anyone.
“Few human beings are proof against the implied flattery of
rapt attention.” – Jack Woodford
“There is not mystery about successful business intercourse.
Exclusive attention to the person who is speaking to you is very important.
Nothing else is so flattering as that.” – Charles W. Eliot
Listening is just as important in one’s home life as in the
world of business.
“They have been so much concerned with what they are going
to say next that they do not keep their ears open. Very important people have
told me that they prefer good listeners to good talkers, but the ability to listen
seems rarer than almost any other good trait.” – Isaac F. Marcosson
If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an
attentive listener. To be interesting, be interested. Ask questions that other
persons will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and their
accomplishments.
Principle 4: Be a good listener.
Encourage others to talk about themselves.
The blue sky is waiting tomorrow.
Waiting tomorrow.
Shining and shimmering~
Aside from the daily 5:30PM rooftop session (meditation and reading book), it’s always nice to look at the sky at 6PM. The moon is so beautiful while the sky is so blue. Birds are flying and seems like enjoying themselves. Wind is not too cold and not too warm - it caress you.
And I can feel that I am healing little by little.
Soon, I’ll be able to ride in those planes. ð
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The average person is more
interested in his or her own name than in all the other names on earth put
together.
Remember that name and call it
easily, and you have paid a subtle and very effective compliment. But forget it
or misspell it – and you have placed yourself at a sharp disadvantage.
Sometimes it is difficult to remember
a name, particularly if it is hard to pronounce. Rather than even try to learn
it, many people ignore It or call the person by an easy nickname.
The bigger a corporation gets,
the colder it becomes. “One way to warm it up is to remember people’s names.
The executive who tells me he can’t remember names is at the same time telling
me he can’t remember a significant part of his business and is operating on
quicksand.” – Benton Love
People are so proud of their
names that they strive to perpetuate them at any cost.
Most people don’t remember
names, for the simple reason that they don’t take the time and energy necessary
to concentrate and repeat and fix names indelibly in their minds. They make excuses
for themselves; they are too busy.
Half of the time we are
introduced to a stranger, we chat a few minutes and can’t even remember his or
her name by the time we say goodbye.
We should be aware of the magic
contained n a name and realize that this single item is wholly and completely
owned by the person with whom we are dealing and nobody else.
Principle 3: Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
The expression one wears on one’s face is far more important
that the clothes one wears on one’s back.
Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, “I like
you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you.”
“People who smile tend to manage, teach, and sell more
effectively, and to raise happier children. There’s far more information in a
smile than a frown. That’s why encouragement is a much more effective teaching
device than punishment.” – Professor James V. McConnell
You must have a good time meeting people if you expect them
to have a good time meeting you.
“Actions seems to follow feeling, but really action and
feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more
direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is
not.” – William James
Everybody in the world is seeking happiness – and there is
one sure way to find it. That is by controlling your thoughts. Happiness doesn’t
depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions.
It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or
what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about
it.
Your smile is a messenger of your good will. Your smile
brightens the lives of all who see it.
