1st Out-of-town Trip

First out-of-town trip with my love. Her flight was Dec 20. We met after she arrived to Manila.

The moment I saw her again, I recognized that she became bigger. 😆

We've been together from Dec 20-24. Made most of our time together. She spent Christmas eve with her family and relatives.

Then Dec 26, I went to fetch her from her aunt's house and had a quick date.

Might be

The Robin theory

Everyone has their own Robin,the person that you love so much but can't be with. The person that stole your heart but left you wondering what did you do wrong...
When Ted met Robin and started to get to know her,she was nothing like the girl of his dreams, she fears commitment, hate kids,doesn't share the same interests as Ted's
But when he met Tracy the perfect girl for him that has it all, she wasn't enough,because Robin was always the right one for Ted no matter how different they are.
Because love doesn't make sense! You can't logic your way into or out of it. Just don't try to search for the person who shares the same interests as you because whoever you'll meet whatever you'll do, you'll always find your way back to the person who stole your heart, the person that gives you butterflies when you're around, the person that will drive you crazy enough to steal a blue French horn or to travel the world just to get a locket...
At the end you'll always find yourself going back to your Robin...
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R.A writings
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Carol looks perfect for me. She seems like my right person. I wanna treasure her and be with her, hoping till the end.

But might be Cha is my Robin. 😆 Nevertheless, we are still good friends and a family, will always be.

My precious little sister

The other day, I told Carol how precious or very dear to me Cha is. That she's a family and like a little sister to me. Carol has no problem with it since she doesn't get jealous. In fact, she's fine to meet Cha in person. And she said, they might get along very well. And I really hope so.

Awhile ago, Cha visited to get the 2 balikbayan boxes that contain books and kitchen stuff. I also gave the last documents (I think) she had in me.

She played with Venice and Riri. Api was also very excited to see her. Looking at her, she's still the jolly and nice Cha I've known. May she stay happy and healthy. 😊

I pray that we stay as family and bestfriends forever. ☺️

Random Random

Just some random thoughts (while busy at work).. 😆

What if I was really the villain to the love story of Cha and Jake? What if they are really in love with each other? What if I didn't fight for Cha last year? Do you think they will still be together now? And do you think, Carol and I are already celebrating our first year anniversary this year?

Last year, Cha and Jake were in love with each other. I was madly in love with Cha. I didn't know that Carol was secretly liking me. I really looked like a villain! 😳😅

God, what have I done... 🥺 I was really immature back then. 😕

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Anyway, past is past. I've learned hard lessons from my past shortcomings. And I should be wary with my actions next time.

I should take care of Carol. I don't wanna lose another one. "Happy wife, happy life."

On the other side, Cha is my precious little sister. I'll be a caring and loving older sibling for her.

Confession

Yesterday, my love confessed to me that she already liked me even before when we were just friends (last year). That she even wished to St. Claire that I'll be her boyfriend in the future. She said, it took a year though but it finally happened.

I was at the gym when I found this out. Initial reaction, I was flattered. Because she used to tell me that she hated someone like me - Libra. Never thought that someone out there was actually prayed for me. I used to pray that Cha would be my "till death do us part" until August when I finally woke up and realized my worth - that I deserve someone who can fight for me and is faithful. When we were still together, I felt like na parang ako yung kabit at kailangan ko makipag-compete sa kanila. 🙁 Good thing I don’t have to feel that anymore with my love. She knows that I get jealous sometimes and she does things that will avoid to let me feel it.

Then friendship with my love blossomed. Actually, she was the one who made the first moves. She wanted us to be official couple ASAP. Though I initially told her that we should wait until we meet in person again, I asked her to be my girlfriend last October. She thought about it for few days. And finally said "yes" day after my birthday.

May she really be my right person. I will do my best to be the right person for her. So help us God.

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By the way, I played many games earlier 'cause it's holiday today. 😁 And I think, my impulsiveness took over - bought couple of clothes from Yesstyle. 😆😅

I chose you and will choose you

Recently, Carol and I got into a heated discussion. I was so pissed that I didn't even care if she broke up with me. Or I didn't wanna talk to her and didn't care anymore.

But then, I don't know what happened next. Told her I don't wanna fight with her and we're just in a discussion even though she didn't know I'm already pissed.

Now, I'm still in love with her. Told you, I'm not everyday in love with her. We didn't had video call for few days already.

She's having an internal battle. I can sense that she needs some time alone, to re-think about her life. I assured her that I will just be here supporting her. As much as I want to see her and hug her tightly, I still couldn't do it. The current situation doesn't permit us yet. Told her that I will do my best to serve my queen.

Love, don't be anxious about the future. So what if we don't have a house yet of our own? Our time will soon arrive. Just be patient, stay strong, and keep on striving for our personal goals. Wherever you want to live and settle down, I'll be okay with it. I chose you and will choose to stay with you till the end. For our future kids and our family, let's do our best! I love you my love.

Circle of Influence First!

I've been preparing something as I want to join the AP Year-Ender Talent Contest. I want to join because of the prize at stake. Haha! It would be nice to win some bucks so that we can have something for Christmas' eve or NY's eve. If ever I'll win, even consolation prize, 50 for me and 50 for my mom. I already asked help from Rhea to be my creative director and probably help me in the video editing.

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On the other hand, I have so many pending tasks in my personal life. 

- Roshi's neuter

- Roshi's deworm and 5-in-1

- MikMik's deworm and 4-in-1

- Copper and Frappe's de-worm

- Plan out my December leaves (budget; where and when to go)

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Random thoughts:

Maybe, my love is really my right person. My love never denies my existence as her partner at her workplace. And she always say "thank you" to my simple gifts, even though she doesn't really need/like them. I feel a little bit flattered that she appreciates me and my efforts. Though we both wanted to have private lovelife, she didn't deny that she's already in a relationship - even to people who are expressing their intentions to her. With that, I'm confident about her.

She also told me something like this yesterday, "Habang lumilipas ang mga araw, lalo ako na-iinlove sayo. Wag mo na tanungin paano dahil di ko rin alam." She's not an expressive kind of person. It's taking a lot of her to be honest and say what she really feels. And I really appreciate this confession she made. So lucky to have her.

Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Very busy work week 😅

I may not be everyday in love with Carol. But I chose her and chose to be committed with her. When I am very busy with work, I am pre-occupied and most the times, forget my personal life. Even her tends to be busy. Even though, I still choose to love her. We still choose to give time to each other, even 10mins of call a day.

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30 days of proactivity

I'll apply to it my work and personal life. I'll see what will happen. Start with my Circle of influence - myself and within.

So help me God.

Love’s birthday and monthsary

The surprises I prepared for my love - bouquet + balloon, pizza, lasagna, and strawberry cake. 😁

It’s not only her birthday we celebrate but our 1st monthsary.

Kahit na lumulobo na sya sa mga pakain ko 😆😅, she’s still my only one. A wife material. I’m lucky for having her. 😊

God, I’m not 100% sure yet but seems like she’s my right person. May we stay together committed through thick and thin. And I want to be the right person for her. So help us God.

Commitment is more than a feeling

Carol and I talked about our ex. Well, it's just a casual talk from the topic "better to have money with no romantic relationship than to be in a relationship but no money".

And I could say, "baka nga di committed sakin yung ex ko nun".

Commitment is more than a feeling. It's more than being in love. You will never feel in love everyday to your partner. It needs effort and have shared goals.

It's never to late to love again. Now, I am committed to my love, Carol. I would love to spend the rest of my life with her.

I am so lucky I met the mature Carol and I think she's lucky too to have met the mature Rove. We're still both work-in-progress until we grow old. I pray that no one will give up on our relationship, through thick and thin.

So help us God. 😊

Thank God for my office chair - Sihoo M57!

Sent from my iPhone

Love is a Verb

I don't want her to feel that I used her to move on from my past relationship. Because I really did not. I made sure I already moved on before I start liking someone else. And I don't really mind being single since I enjoy my own company. It's just God finally introduced to me my right person. And I can say that we're both mature now and still in-progress. We've been to few fights already but we were able to reconcile because we have to compromise if we really want to love each other. "Love is a verb." We both don't want to fight and have misunderstanding as they cause physical pain to us. 

Let's see how our relationship will work during and after the pandemic. We just have to maintain open and good communications.

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Thoughts when I randomly checked the pics of the backup zip file of me and my ex's FB.

I don't have any regrets about my relationship with my recent ex. I was so immature back then. Thanks to her and to the experience, I've learned a lot. And I feel sorry for her. :( 

Now, I think I've found my right person. Every time I think of Carol, my heart literally aches. I didn't feel the same with other persons during my entire life - except when I got really hurt emotionally and mentally. Haha.

We both know our worth that’s why we don’t chase people anymore. I think it’s fate that made us closer together.

Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

My Love

I've been preparing this birthday surprise for Carol. If ever it's still not allowed to go there for leisure travel, I will just do them as long as she's there. Haha! It depends on her plan for her birthday though. If she'll be out-of-town, I will just move the surprise date. 😁

It will also be our 1st Monthsary. ☺️ Once a year, we will celebrate both her birthday and our monthsary. 😆

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I think I wanna marry her. 😆

Pero if I’m thinking of practicality, my financial is not yet ready na buhayin si Carol if ever she’ll lose a job by leaving the province. 😅 I am still doing Masters and paying the lot I bought in Batangas. I couldn’t offer her a house of our own yet. Lots I have, numbers of it, but no house. I have tents though. 😂🤣 

When I was single, I haven’t thought of getting a house of my own yet since my plan was to go abroad for study and work. I also never thought of myself settling down and will always go on traveling. Well, I still have a plan to go to AU for study & work when the boundary starts to open. Carol already knew this when we’re still friends. 

Let’s see what will happen to us in the future. Let’s just live to NOW, to the PRESENT. 😁

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Hope we'll stick together through thick or thin. 🙏 And I pray that we are each other's right person. I will do my best to be the right person for her. 

Casual discussion with Love

We’ve talked a lot of things already, from personal life to one’s goals and dreams in life.

Actually, I bought this card game made for couples. It has questions that couples can answer to make them closer and get to know each other more. It helped.

Aside from these, I think our values are the same for most things. 

3 things what we like with our partner

R to C: 

1. I think may paninindigan and faithful

2. Marunong magbudget (she dreams of having her own business in the future)

3. Marunong magluto (she can cook a lot of recipes)

C to R:

1. Have pets

2. Does workout

3. Makulit (daw)

Loving oneself by eating healthy and working out really attract your right person. 😉 

She loves eating fish and veggies and told me not to be picky when we’re together. She’ll cook me fish and veggies. 😳

She wants to live in a province (Cebu, Bohol, or Dumaguete). I prefer city for fast internet because of my work (Metro Manila, Cebu, or Davao). So I guess, our future home would be in Cebu. 😅

We’ve also already discussed names of our future children. 😆 She wants to have a child before she reached the age of 30. I also want to have a kid in the future but I’d like my wife to do the pregnancy. And she’s okay with it. 😁 

Sergei Myler - our boy’s name

Miro Sochi - our girl’s name, but still under discussion 😆

More to come... 

In God’s will and direction. 😊

Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

My Queen

Love, my beautiful queen.

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I think God really prepared us both, to be mature enough and meet in His perfect time. We’ve been friends for 13 months before I started liking her romantically. Then we fell in love with each other after a month. Then became an official couple.

“The right person does not run away.”

This time, I have to make it right. I have to do my best to be the right person for her.

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God, please keep us strong mentally, emotionally, and physically. “Me time” is very important for both of us. 

Soon, when I can now fly with no restrictions. I’ll see her.

So excited to travel the world with my love when the world gets better. ☺️

ma chérie

My love's/sweetie's good morning to me is an "I love you 😘".

Hope it does not change even we're already together physically. I feel like a kid when in love. 😅😂 Her smile is contagious. I wanna see it everytime.

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We had a talk last time. And based on those discussions, I told her that it seems like I will be under her. 😆 She then said, "Kaya tinanong kita kung sure kaba." I just laughed and said, it's okay. And told her something like, "let's see if you can control/tame me." She said, when she gets angry at me, she'll just block me in all comms. The duration of not talking to me depends on how grave my offenses are. 😅 At kahit suyuin or lambingin ko sya, it will not take effect. And I said to myself, "I gotta be careful not to make her angry." 😅 Twice na nya ko napaluha kahit di pa kami. 😆 So, need extra careful on my actions and on how I think.

Last night, we had a talk about 'sleeping habits'. She couldn't sleep with someone beside her touching her. 😳 So that means, when we travel together, either I get a twin bedroom or get a very large bed and make sure my body won't touch hers. And she said, her sleep is very important as she tends to vomit in the morning from lack of sleep. And when she suddenly wake up in the middle of the night, she couldn't sleep anymore. Her sleep is much important than our relationship. And she quoted, "Di bale walang jowa, basta may tulog." So sleep is lifer for her. 😆

She also have "not allowed" food and drinks. She can only drink water. 🤭 No salty food (which I love!), no streetfood, no noodles, no balut (oh em!), no small beans, etc. That means, when we're together, I got to ask her what she would like to eat and is okay for her. 🤪

I got to be extra careful when she's around. Anyway, I'll be under her, I guess. 😅😂 Her wish will be my command. 😆

Random Thoughts

Just some thoughts..

Why after fighting for 5 years, you have finally given up on Cha?

I think I've answered this already from my previous posts.

Tired of chasing and begging someone to stay and be loyal and faithful to me.

I think, Cha really wants to have a boyfriend. She just doesn't want to hurt me by telling it directly to my face. If she's not and was contented with me, she won't ever cheat. First one, Daniel. I let it pass because she said he's a childhood bestfriend. Second, Jake. This is the most hurtful one. I forgave her. Last one, Daryl. Another childhood bestfriend. (Really, how many childhood bestfriends does she had relationships with? 🤪) I don't wanna know anymore when their affair has started.

Once is enough. Twice is too much. Thrice, it's already my fault. 

Despite these, I fought very hard until the very last moment. No regrets. I did my best. But it just happened that the other person didn’t want to fight for us anymore.

Why chase and beg for someone if the right person is out there waiting? God really works in mysterious ways. And there's a reason why He let me and Cha met 5 years ago - probably to teach both of us a lesson. After 5 years, I have let go everything. God saved me from a lot of trouble. I just have to lay all my life and plans unto Him.

Now, I think I found my right person. Hopefully she is. Still praying for God's direction. 😊

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At the end of the day, “people change, people move on”.

3 Decades of Adventures! (Happy Birthday!)

Hey! I got a birthday escapade for my 3 decades! 

Went to Batangas with family. I had bad migraine though on the first day that's why I was only sleeping the whole night from late afternoon. 😔 I was also not able to eat dinner because I got bad stomach (vomited the food I ate that time). The next day, Oct 17, I was able to eat well and swam in the morning! 😀 I don't know how to equalize anymore when I free dived. 😕

My phone's signal wasn't working from the time we arrived in Batangas on Friday. I received few SMS and miscall from Carol on Oct 16th. Then the only call and SMS I received on 17th are from Cha. I'm not sure what happened though. Haha! Cha has still a special space in my phone and in heart too. She's a family. 😊

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We celebrated again on the 18th, Sunday, at home with samgyupsal party and some Soju. This time with my father and other nephews who were left at home. 😁

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Also on this day, Carol finally said "yes" after few days of "thinking". 😅😆 We're now officially a couple. 😊 Not sure how will this work, the LDR. It's my first time. 😅 But I don't wanna pressure her or myself. Because it's pandemic, we know it's not possible to fly and see each other. Again, we have to be patient until the day we can see each other again in person. When we fell in love, we didn't put so much effort into it. It's like the destiny was working for us to talk and hangout (even virtually). And again, just like what she always say, "if it's meant to be, it's meant to be, whatever happens". But she was the one who first initiated and wooed me. Hahaha! Guess what? What's our call sign? (I didn't know at first that term, "call sign". Just learnt it from her. 😆) "LOVE" 😨 It makes me cringe every time. But I have no choice, that's what she wants. 😅

I'm still praying that I've already found my "The One" that God has been preparing for me. If Carol is still not the woman destined for me, I don't know anymore. Haha! I've already laid all my plans and my life to Him.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

What’s up

I'm still emotionally and mentally exhausted.

I'm a negativity absorber. I want to fly away, together with my furbabies, from people and from mess.

I really appreciate the effort of Carol for checking on me or talking to me from time to time. Her smile is like a sunshine to my gloomy weather.

I so much love my furbabies. They comfort me whenever I'm sad or stress. They are my happy pill. I will never leave them no matter what. If I'm going to choose between my family or my furbabies, I'll choose my babies. If will choose between a romantic partner or my furbabies, still same choice.

Seek Him First

Mentioned previously that Carol and I are both cautious to enter into a commitment. 

She showed me earlier the blueprint of the house she made supposedly for her and her ex's house. She was about to build the house and show as surprise. But they broke up after 6 years and she never had a chance to let her ex know about her plan.

I was about to buy the residential lot in a subdivision for our future house of me and my ex. And was also about to get the engagement ring and propose. But she broke up with me after 5 years together. I tried to tell her that those were supposed my surprise after she left me. Not sure if she ever found out.

I guess God has a way of protecting both of us from the wrong people. It saved us from lots of headaches.

Now, she started going into piggery business to maybe fund the future house she wanted to have for her and her future partner.

I used the money instead for my graduate school and a beach residential lot in an exclusive seaside subdivision for me and my family.

Though Carol and I like/love each other, we have to wait until we see each other again and maybe officially get into a commitment. Though we both desire for our next relationship be the last one, we both know that we should not talk like it's the end and will not change ("wag magsalita ng tapos").

"People change. People move on."

At the end of the day, it's still God's plan and direction that will win.

Make it right

I've read in 7 Habits or in How to influence..

Using the partner or other persons's weakness to manipulate him/her into my advantage.

I am guilty of this! This is one of my biggest mistakes I've done to Cha in our relationship. Making her feel guilty for almost all the things I said.

Now, I don't wanna do this anymore. This time, I need to change for the better if I really want to be the right person for Carol. As time goes by, she is opening up to me little by little and I get to know her (thanks to my knowledge of psychology). I don't want to make her angry again. She tends to instantly block me to all modes of comms when she got mad and not talk to me for minimum of 24hrs. 😣

If Carol is really the right person God has prepared for me, I have to do my very best to change within.

P.S. They said, it's always easy to start a new relationship than to maintain it. For me, it's the other way around. 😆 I have to introduce myself again, know the other person, etc.

TBT from 11 years (FB)

11 years ago, I had puppy love. 😆

I wonder what and who will be my TBT after 5 years. Haha!

Let It Go

While going through my things for the last docs or things Cha owned, I saw the handwritten letter she gave me last 2016/2017.  Nothing. Haha!

Then this Christmas handwritten quotes she gave me. Something like, "Whether to walk away or try harder. Choose wisely." Well, this time, I chose to walk away. I already fought very hard. To the extent of risking my physical, mental, and emotional health 

Just like what Angeline Jolie said, "I don't chase people. I attract." I'm done with chasing Cha. I'd rather stay single than continue liking her. Not worth it. 

It's never easy for me to let go of Cha nor the things we shared together. It's really difficult. But I need to do it and overcome it if I want to welcome and give space to greater things into my life. And I did it - finally learned to let go everything! 😁 With God's help of course!

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

My God’s Woman

From the day I started renovating my room until the day I removed my things from Cha's, I've realized many things.

1. Before entering into a relationship/commitment, make sure you and your partner should have similar view in life.
2. Make sure that both of you share the same goals for your relationship. E.g. One you will be for the rest of your life, marriage, etc
3. Ang hirap pala ayusin set-up ng mga bata kapag naghiwalay parents. 😅 Both parties gusto makasama yung kids. 🙁
4. Ang hirap pala maglinis at mag-ayos ng mga gamit kapag naghiwalay na. 😅
5. Ayaw ko na maranasan ulit ang heartbreak. Baka di lang stress at acute cyst ako mgkaroon. Baka next time, ikamatay ko na. 😒

I may had a failed long-term relationship, but it doesn't define who I am. I thank God and Cha for teaching me so many things. And I hope I will remember them always and become more mature.

This time, the next person God will introduce to me hopefully is the woman He's been preparing for me, my The One. I want to be the right person for her. I will do my very best to keep her, serve her, respect her, and make her happy. "Happy wife, happy life."

Let Your will thy be done.

Entrusted to Him

Carol and I are not forcing love with each other. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. We already entrusted our life, even our lovelife, to Him.

So now, it's just okay that we both know that we really like each other. Then if we're really meant to be, then we will eventually become a couple. In God's perfect time, everything will make sense.

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On the other side, bits of bits of memories are popping in my head once in awhile - good memories with Cha like travels, dinner dates, etc. I will treasure them forever. ☺️

Be The Right Person, Rove

S***! Parehong pareho sila ni Cha.

Yung akala nila ina-accuse ko sila of being unfaithful at nirereto ko sa iba. I don’t really mean anything of that. Sometimes, it’s out of jealousy. Sometimes, they are just plain questions. This is the reason why Cha left me, she’s already fed up with me.

When my special person is being open and honest to me, I show doubts. When she keeps a secret to avoid me from getting jealous, then when I found out, I show accusations. What’s up me?!?!? I should learn how to keep my mouth shut, trust my special someone 100%, and be confident about myself.

God, thank you for giving me a second chance in love. To make me realize my flaws and correct them, even though it costs new person to teach me a lesson. I can imagine you saying to me, “You’re a hard headed child. Do I have to introduce you to Carol for you to realize things and  change?”

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Doofus Rove

Haaay.

Carol and Cha are the same. I am just asking. Yes, sometimes there's jealousy. But most of the times, none.

Same na same sila sumagot. 😒 They really can't handle me? I know there's something wrong about me.

I have to fix myself. I think I really need time. Maybe Carol is the right person but I'm still the wrong person just like Cha and Rove.

I’m always the wrong person for the right person.

Horse inside me has to be unleashed. Ayaw ko muna ng romantic relationship. 😞 It’s better to be single, Rove. Para walang nagagalit at wala rin bigla nalang mawawa ng parang bula.

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This is what I don’t like. When my special someone got mad at me, that’s okay. But don’t always conclude that we’re done then be gone like a bubble and not talk to me anymore, after me saying ‘sorry’.

When I get hurt for so long, I tend to move on. When I did, I won’t like/love you anymore the way I used to be.

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Ayaw ko na magka-lovelife ng same race ko, in short Pinoy. When I’m joking, they treat it as I’m serious. When I’m serious, they treat it as if I am joking. 

When will I be a right person for someone... 😞 I should work harder to be one.

Who is she

Random thoughts..

There are few times I am dying to see Carol in person. That I would like to hug her. And maybe kiss her. I think I am really in love with her.

Does it mean, I have already moved on from my past? I guess so. Because I am unable to like two or more persons at the same time. 😁 I don't have that kind of talent. 😋 Haha!

Carol had been from two long-term relationships (6 years each; started at 16yrs old). And I had been from one long-term relationship (4.5 years; already 25yrs old). So it's understandable that we're both cautious in entering into a new commitment. I would like her to be my last but we both don't want to "magsalita ng tapos". We don't have any idea who are the persons God has been preparing for us or destined for us. I told her that we should wait until we see each other again and maybe commit. That if it's really God's will, we can wait patiently and faithfully until it's now okay to air travel and meet.

P.S. Still praying for that woman God has been preparing for me. No idea who is she. I just have to be patient and change myself to be a better person and be the right person for her.

To my ex

To my ex.

Not today but last Aug 2020. 😊

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Oct 2 is my first ex’ birthday. Every year since we split up, I greet her on her birthday. We’re still good friends. And this will also happen with Cha, my last ex. 

It’s really liberating when you know the truth. ☺️

Just like what Carol has said, “Wala sa tagal ng pagsasama yan, nasa tao yan.”

When you found your right person, time doesn’t matter anymore. 😊

Live in the moment

Just some random thoughts...

Maybe I met Cha in the wrong time. Time wherein she's about to experience quarter life crisis and still doesn't know who she really is and what she really likes/wants in life.

Maybe this pandemic will last for a year. End around Feb/Mar 2021? And since I live in PH, travel domestically won't still possible till then. 😔

Then I will be stuck here??? No lovelife for Rove till then? Haha! I'm supposed to meet Carol once air travel ban has lifted.

It's always easy to start a new relationship than to fight for the previous or existing one. Why? People just like it. Only strong people withstand through time. Though I was willing to do that (was about to propose remember?), my ex-partner was not. 😔 I always just say to myself that maybe, it's God's plan. He wanted to save us both because we're still not yet ready or He has different persons prepared/destined for us.

Whatever God's plan is, I don't have any idea. What I can only do is to live in the moment. Live in the PRESENT.

Now, it's easy to spend time with myself, my furbabies, and my family. Maybe it's God's plan then. It's also easy to talk to Carol. Maybe it's God's plan too.

P.S. Carol and I don't always talk. In a day, 30mins to none at all. Probably we're already mature enough not to always have a chat or call 'cause we know we have our own activities too and we are confident with each other.

In His Perfect Time

I remembered the time I asked God why He allowed someone I love to leave and why we didn’t work.

Then, God taught me to look at the bigger picture of why He had to put an end to that story.

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Sometimes, you might feel God has destroyed your plans and left you empty and broken.

Yet, you don’t have to regret who’d left nor what you’d lost.

No matter how much you loved that person, or how many years you’ve spent together, these are not enough reasons to hold on IF that is NOT the will of God for you.

“God will save you from the wrong person, to save you for the right one. “

God will give you the right person He perfectly chosen for you. (Genesis 2:18)

A right person who will love you with HIS perfect love.

So never regret who and what you’ve lost, bcoz it is more regretful if you miss the right person God has for you.

God knows better WHO is the best for you.

And He will surely lead that person to you in His own way and His own time simply because He promised a good future for you. Jeremiah 29:11

Remember, out of God’s amazing love & grace, you deserve nothing but the best.

So to you who is waiting,

be grateful, remain faithful and preserve yourself for the right one just as what God is doing for you right now.

Soon, I pray, you’ll praise God and say “Thank you Lord that you save me for the best one.”

Glorify God from this day and when that day comes!

“and call upon me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you shall glorify me.””

‭‭Psalm‬ ‭50:15‬ ‭

God bless you, 𝓯𝓪𝓲𝓽𝓱𝓯𝓾𝓵 𝓸𝓷𝓮.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

God only knows

I am really a slow person. Haha!

Carol wanted me to like/love her not because she likes/loves me. But I prefer to be with someone who sees and values my worth the way I see and value it. I'd rather choose the person who likes/loves me than I like/love. She's the other way around.

I want to scrutinize my heart and feelings. I love Cha. But I don't want as a romantic love anymore, but a family and bestfriend love. Why? I've had enough. I want to completely move on from the romantic love I may have left for Cha. I want to love Carol because I love her. I don't wanna think about the "if only Cha didn't ignore me last month, etc".

I have to spend more time alone. When I can now travel, I want to travel alone or with my family. I might want to go for few weeks. She has a choice of whether she'll wait for me or move on. If she chooses the latter, then she's not the person God is preparing for me. If she chooses the first one and was able to wait for me, then surely, I will be hers forever.

I don't want to skip any process in moving on. One month might be enough, especially I worked very hard. But memories are popping from time to time in my head. I ignore them, but they still kept on coming once or twice in 2-3 days. Maybe, when I completely has moved on, means has forgotten at least 90%, bits of memories won't even perk in the windows of my mind.

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God, I know you have very great plans for my life. And I want to trust you. I cannot trust my mind nor my feelings anymore. I want to trust you completely and surrender myself. I don't have any idea what's best for me or who's the person you have been preparing for me. I just know she's out there. Please help me change to be a better person and be the right person for your person. Thank you for always saving me. Amen!

A Traveler’s Prayer

I am hoping and praying that the world will soon heal from the pandemic.

I really wanted to go to Australia and bring my mother there.

I really wanted to go back to Japan and South Korea. And probably bring Venice in Japan.

I wanted to go to Batanes (3rd try). I already bought my tickets for March 2021.

I'd rather stay single and travel. Not unless God will give me this year or next year the woman of my prayers and we'll travel together. ☺️

I wanna spend more time with myself, my furbabies, and my family.

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In Jesus name, amen! 🙏

In God's Plan (Seek Him First)

Why I decided to move on last Aug 2020?

Because I already fell ill physically (non-critical cyst), not just mentally and emotionally. I already got tired chasing (suyuin) the person I loved. That I finally realized that I love myself more and I should know my worth. That I don't have to force myself to someone who doesn't even care or want me.

I worked hard for the whole month of August. Meditation, workout, doctor check-ups, anti-depressive meds, read books, and family time. I dedicated myself to these, detached myself from the social media world. I was able to heal fast, also with the help of prayers and avoided the thoughts of past. I am very happy as single.

Sep 2020. I reconnected with a friend, Carol. Fast forward, we're now good friends. We both like each other. But we're not yet in a relationship nor in a commitment. We're both cautious (and probably don't want commitment yet) because we both want our next relationship will be our last one. That the next one would be the person we will be with for the rest of our lives. No ILYs, kisses, nor Good mornings yet. These words are precious to me and I only want to say them to my official partner - I guess she is too. 

Told her that since it's not yet possible for us to see each other, we'll just enjoy each other's company as good friends online. If we're really destined to be together, in God's perfect time, we'll meet again. And if she's the woman God is preparing for me and I'm the person that's been preparing by God for her, then we will end up together. And if we're only destined to be good friends, that's okay. God knows best. 😃 All in His perfect time.

Love is patient. Love is kind.

P.S. Ayaw ko parin magsalita ng tapos. Baka iba plan ni God in the end. Pinasa-Diyos ko na lahat ng decisions and takbo ng buhay ko. Aminado narin naman ako na late bloomer ako at hopeless romantic. Pero alam ko sa sarili ko na I'm a loyal and faithful person. And I always think that the person I will love is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with.

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"Well.. I know my worth at alam ko ano kaya ko gawin kasi sa tao.. para mahalin ako." - Carol

Nope, pinakita at pinaramdam mo lang sa tao yung worth nya. 

"Kelan kaya sya mag sasabi ng I LOVE YOU 🤣😂" - Carol

If He permits and in His perfect timing.

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What makes me like her?

She's funny. I can probably laugh all day just by talking to her. She's a straightforward person. They may hurt a little but they made me realized few things about my life and I appreciated it. She's an extrovert and I think, a mature person.

Few weeks I ago, I told her that I'm not the kind of person who will compete with other people when it comes to liking someone. If the person I like has many suitors or admirers, I tend to disappear and not like the person anymore. What she did? She started eating at home every lunchbreak just to avoid the workmate guy who is liking her (only two of them have the same lunch time). She even showed to her workmates one time that we're talking over the phone for 2 consecutive lunchbreaks at her workplace. I didn't tell her to do those. In fact, I don't mind if she eats or hang out with anyone. For some reason, I don't feel jealous anymore (I don't have the right in the first place.😜) Anyway, what she did proved that she likes me too and she's serious about it. I appreciated her desire and effort. 😊 She even told me not to be over protective and get rid of my insecurities.

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While waiting for that woman God is preparing for me. I have to continually develop and improve myself; and be the right person for that person.

On the other side, I want to stay single for now. Haha! Spend more time with myself, my furbabies, and my family.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Character Ethics

If we’re talking about “character”. What are the most you are proud of that you possess?

I am forgiving. I easily forgive. 

I love and trust human beings. I always believe in the goodness of their heart.

I am adventurous. I love discovering and learning new things.

“Do not do unto others what you don’t want others do unto you.”

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Beach house for the win!!! ^_^

I finally bought a residential land. It's not the usual residential lot a normal person can think of though.

It's a beach residential lot. ^_^ Love it!

Thank you God! Finally! To God be the glory!!! ^_^

I've prayed about this in the past and even forgotten about it after the heartbreak I had. But God has a different plan. 

I may not be able to buy a lot to start my own just yet. But I will have my own beach house in the future~! And I bought it not just for me, but also for my family. For us to have a vacation house here in Luzon, especially if one is unable to fly via plane.

And swerte naman ng next relationship ko. Haha! Meron na kaming getaway na malapit to unwind and relax if life is getting stressful. :)

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For now, I don't want to be in a relationship just yet. I want to enjoy my singlehood. Even though, I'm still praying for that one person God is preparing for me. Surely, she's also currently work-in-progress. In God's perfect time, we will meet and start a new chapter of our life. I'm not in a hurry. I will wait for that "the one".

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Making People Glad To do What You Want

Always make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

I knew a man who had refuse many invitations to speak, invitations extended by friends, invitations coming from people to whom he was obligated; and yet he did it so adroitly that the other person was at least contented with his refusal. How did he do it? Not by merely talking about the fact that he was too busy and too-this and too-that. No, after expressing his appreciation of the invitation and regretting his inability to accept it, he suggested a substitute speaker. In other words, he didn't give the other person any time to fell unhappy about the refusal. He immediately changed the other person's thoughts to some other speaker who could accept the invitation.

This techniques of giving titles and authority worked for Napoleon and it will work for you.

The effective leader should keep the following guidelines  in mind when it is necessary to change altitudes or behavior:

1. Be sincere. Do not promise anything that you cannot deliver. Forget about the benefits to yourself and concentrate on the benefits to the other person.

2. Know exactly what it is you want the other person really wants.

3. Be empathetic. Ask yourself what it is the other person really wants.

4. Consider the benefits that person will receive from doing what you suggest.

5. Match those benefits to the other person's wants.

6. When you make your request, put it in a form that will convey to the other person the idea that he personally will benefit.

It is naïve to believe you will always get a favorable reaction from other persons when you use these approaches, but the experience of most people shows that you are more likely to change attitudes this way than by not using these principles - and it you increase your successes by even a mere 10 percent, you have become 10 percent more effective as a leader than you  were before - and that is your benefit.

Principle 9: Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Make The Fault Seem Easy To Correct

Tell your child, your spouse, or your employee that he or she is stupid or dumb at a certain thing, has no gift for it, and is doing it all wrong, and  you have destroyed almost every incentive to try to improve. But use the opposite technique - be liberal with your encouragement, make the thing seem easy to do, let the other person know that you have faith in his ability to do it, that he has undeveloped flair for it - and he will practice until the dawn comes in the window in order to excel.

Principle 8: Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Give a Dog a Good Name

"The average person can be led readily if you have his or her respect and if you show that you respect that person for some kind of ability." - Samuel Vauclain

If you want to improve a person in a certain respect, act as though that particular trait were already one of his or her outstanding characteristics. 

"Assume a virtue, if you have it not." - Shakespeare

It might well to assume and state openly that other people have the virtue you want them to develop. Give them a fine reputation to live up to, and they will make prodigious efforts rather than see you disillusioned.

"Give a dog a bad name and you may as well hang him." But give him a good name - and see what happens!

Principle 7: Give the other persona fine reputation to live up to. 

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

How To Spur People On To Success

Why, I wonder, don't we use the same common sense when trying to change people that we use when trying to change dogs? Why don't we use meat instead of a whip?  Why don't we use praise instead of condemnation? Let us praise even the slightest improvement. That inspires the other person to keep on improving.

"Praise is like sunlight to the warm human spirit; we cannot flower and grow without it. And yet, while most of us are only too ready to apply to others the cold wind of criticism, we are somehow reluctant to give our fellow the warm sunshine of praise." - Jess Lair

History is replete with striking illustrations of the sheer witchery of praise.

Use of praise instead of criticism is the basic concept of B.F. Skinner's teachings. This great contemporary psychologist has shown by experiments with animals and with humans that when criticism is minimized and praise emphasized, the good things people do will be reinforced and the poorer things will atrophy for lack of attention.

Praising the slightest improvement in the children rather than condemning everything they did wrong.

Everybody likes to be praised, but when praised is specific, it comes across as sincere - not something the other person may be saying just to make one feel good.

Remember, we all crave appreciation and recognition, and will do almost anything to get it. But nobody wants insincerity. Nobody wants flattery.

The principles taught in this book will work only when they come from the heart. I am not advocating a bag of tricks. I am talking about a new way of life.

Talk about changing people. If you and I will inspire the people with whom we come in contact to a realization of the hidden treasures  they possess, we can do far more than change people. We can literally transform them.

You who are reading these lines possess powers of various sorts which you habitually fail to use; and one of these powers you are probably not using to the fullest extent is your magic ability to praise people and inspire them with a realization of their latent possibilities. 

Abilities wither under criticism; they blossom under encouragement.

Principle 6: Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be "hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise."

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Let The Other Person Save Face

Letting one save face! How important, how vitally important that is! And how few of us ever stop to think of it! We ride roughshod over the feelings of others, getting our own way, finding fault, issuing threats, criticizing a child or an employee in front  of others, even without considering the hurt to the other person's pride. Whereas a few minutes' thought, a considerate word or two, a genuine understanding of the other person's attitude, would go so far toward alleviating the sting!

Firing employees is not much fun. Getting fired is even less fun.

The effect on these people is one of disappointment and a feeling of being 'let down'.

Even if we are right and the other person is definitely wrong, we only destroy ego by causing someone to lose face.

"I have no right to say or do anything that diminishes a man in his own eyes. What matters is not what I think of him, but what he thinks of himself. Hurting a man in his dignity is a crime." - Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Principle 5: Let the other person save face.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

No One Likes To Take Orders

The man declared that during all that time he had never heard Owen D. Young give a direct order to anyone. He always gave suggestions, not orders. Owen D. Young never said, for example, "Do this or do that," or "Don't do this or don't do that." He would say, "You might consider this," or "Do you think that would work?"

He always gave people the opportunity to do things themselves; he never told his assistants to do things; he let them do them, let them learn from their mistakes.

A technique like that makes it easy for a person to correct errors. A technique like that saves a person's pride and gives him or her a feeling of importance. It encourages cooperation instead of rebellion.

Resentment caused by a brash order may last a long time - even if the order was given to correct an obviously bad situation.

Asking questions not only makes an order more palatable; it often stimulates the creativity of the persons whom you ask. People are more likely to accept an order if they have had a part in the decision that caused the order to be issued.

Principle 4: Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Talk About Your Own Mistakes First

It isn't nearly so difficult to listen to a recital of your faults if the person criticizing begins by humbly admitting that he, too, is far from impeccable.

If a few sentences humbling oneself and praising the other party can turn a haughty, insulted Kaiser into a staunch friend, imagine what humility and praise can do for you and me in our daily contacts. Rightfully used, they will work veritable miracles in human relations.

Admitting one's own mistakes - even when one hasn't corrected them - can help convince somebody to change his behavior. 

Principle 3: Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

How To Criticize - And Not Be Hated For It

Simply changing one three-letter word can often spell the difference between failure and success in changing people without giving offense or arousing resentment.

Many people begin their criticism with sincere praise followed by the word "but" and ending with a critical statement. This could easily overcome by changing the word "but" to "and".

Calling attention to one's mistakes indirectly works wonders with sensitive people who may resent bitterly any direct criticism.

Principle 2: Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

To my ex, thank you ☺️

ArtSector Trip wid Mom and Sis

If You Must Find Fault, This Is The Way To Begin

It is always easier to listen to unpleasant things after we have heard some praise of our good points.

Beginning with praise is like the dentist who begins his work with Novocain. The patient still gets a drilling, but the Novocain is pain-killing.

Principle 1: Begin with praise and honest appreciation.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

When Nothing Else Works, Try This

"The way to get things done is to stimulate competition. I do not mean in a sordid, money-getting way, but in the desire to excel." - Charles Schwab

The desire to excel! The challenge! Throwing down the gauntlet! An infallible way of appealing to people of spirit.

"All men have fears, but the brave put down their fears and go forward, sometimes to death, but always to victory." - King's Guard in ancient Greece

What greater challenge can be offered than the opportunity to overcome those fears?

"I have never found that pay and pay alone would either bring together or hold good people. I think it was the game itself." - Harvey S. Firestone

Frederic Herzberg studied in depth the work attitudes of thousand of people ranging from factory workers to senior executives. The most motivating factor - the one facet of the jobs that was most stimulating? Money? Good working conditions? Fringe benefits? No - not any of those. The one major factor that motivated people was the work itself. If the work was exciting and interesting, the worker looked forward to doing it and was motivated to do a good job.

That is what every successful person loves: the game. The chance for self-expression. The chance to prove his or her worth, to excel, to win. The desire to excel. The desire for a feeling of importance.

Principle 12: Throw down a challenge.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

The Movies Do It. TV Does It. Why Don't You Do It?

This is the day of dramatization. Merely stating a truth isn't enough. The truth has to be made vivid, interesting, dramatic. You have to use showmanship. The movies do it. Television does it. And you will have to do it if you want attention.

You can dramatize your ideas in business or in any other aspect of your life. It's easy.

It works in home life as well. When the old-time lover proposed to his sweetheart, did he just use words of love? No! He went down on his knees. That really showed he meant what he said. We don't propose on our knees anymore, but many suitors still set up a romantic atmosphere before they pop the question.

Dramatizing what you want works with children as well.

"If I had not dramatized to him the fact that I really wanted to see him, I would probably be still waiting for an appointment." - Ms. Wolf

"I was presenting the same facts this time that I had presented previously. But this time I was using dramatization, showmanship  - and what a difference it made." - Mr. Boynton 

Principle 11: Dramatize your ideas.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

An Appeal That Everybody Likes

The fact is that all people you meet have a high regard for themselves and like to be fine and unselfish in their own estimation. 

"A person usually has two reasons for doing a thing: one that sounds good and a real one." - Pierpont Morgan

The person himself will think of the real reason. You don't need to emphasize that. But all of us, being idealists at heart, like to think of motives that sound good. So, in order to change people, appeal to the nobler motives.

"When no information can be secured about the customer, the only sound basis on which to proceed is to assume that he or she is sincere, honest, truthful and willing and anxious to pay the charges, once convinced they are correct. People are honest and want to discharge their obligations. Individuals who are inclined to chisel will in most cases react favorably if you make them feel that you consider them honest, upright, and fair." - Mr. Thomas

Principle 10:  Appeal to the nobler motives.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

What Everybody Wants

"I don't blame you one iota for feeling as you do. If I were you I would undoubtedly feel just as you do."

You deserve very little credit for being what you are - and remember, the people who come to you irritated, bigoted, unreasoning, deserve very little discredit for being what they are. Feel sorry for the poor devils. Pity them. Sympathize with them. Say to yourself: "There, but for the grace of God, go I."

Three-fourths of the people you will ever meet are hungering and thirsting for sympathy. Give it to them, and they will love you.

I said to myself, "After all, if I were she, I would probably feel just as she does." So, I determined to sympathize with her viewpoint.

I had the satisfaction of controlling my temper, the satisfaction of returning kindness for an insult.

"When you get a letter like that, the first thing you do is to think how you can be severe with a person who has committed an impropriety, or even been a little impertinent. Then you may compose an answer. Then if you are wise, you will put the letter in a drawer and lock the drawer. Take it out in the course of two days - such communications will always bear two days' delay in answering - and when you take it out after the interval, you will not send it." - Taft

"Sympathy the human species universally craves. The child eagerly displays his injury; or even inflicts a cut or bruise in order to reap abundant sympathy. For the same purpose adults show their bruises, relate their accidents, illness, especially details of surgical operations. 'Self-pity' for misfortunes real or imaginary is, in some measure, practically a universal practice." - Dr. Arthur I. Gates

Principle 9: Be sympathetic with other person's ideas and desires.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

A Formula That Will Work Wonders For You

Remember that other people may be totally wrong. But they don't think so. Don't condemn them. Any fool can do that. Try to understand them. Only wise, tolerant, exceptional people even try to do that.

There is a reason why the other man thinks and acts as he does. Ferret out the reason - and you have the key to his actions, perhaps to his personality.

Try honestly to put yourself in his place. "How would I feel, how would I react if I were in his shoes?" you will save yourself time and irritation, for "by becoming interested in the cause, we are less likely to dislike the effect."

Success in dealing with people depends on a sympathetic grasp of the other person's viewpoint.

 "Cooperativeness in conversation is achieved when you show that you consider the other person's ideas and feelings as important as your own. Starting your conversation by giving the other person the purpose or direction of your conversation, governing what you say by what you would want to hear if you were the listener, and accepting his or her viewpoint will encourage the listener to have an open mind to your ideas." - Dr. Gerald Nirenberg

Seeing things through another person's eyes may ease tensions when personal problems become overwhelming.

"Why should he or she want to do it?" True, this will take time, but it will avoid making enemies and will get better results - and with less friction and less shoe leather.

To think always in terms of the other person's point of view, and see things from that person's angle as well as your own.

Principle 8: Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

How To Get Cooperation

No one likes to feel that he or she is being sold something or told to do a thing. We much prefer to feel that we are buying of our own accord or acting on our own ideas. We like to be consulted about our wishes, our wants, our thoughts.

Letting the other person feel that the idea is his or hers not only works in business and politics, it works in family life as well. 

"In every work of genius we recognize our own rejected thoughts; they come back to us with a certain alienated majesty." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

"The best way to convert him to an idea was to plant it in his mind casually, but so as to interest him in it - so as to get him thinking about it on his own account." - Col. Edward House

The others had been trying to sell me on their service, but one let me sell myself.

Principle 7: Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Good job Rove!

Hey Blog!

Just want to tell you that God granted my wish and prayer. I have finally moved on from Cha last month. Also was able to recover from my physical illness. All the hard work and prayers paid off. 

What I did? Detached myself from the social media. Learned and began practicing meditation - I still do it everyday. I even did it twice a day. I started practicing mindfulness. Then I started working out 2-3x a week and avoided junk food and drinks (inc. fast food). I also began reading business books and writing my thoughts in my blog. When I feel lonely or sad, I just embrace the feeling, pray, and meditate. And also to help my mental health from falling into depression (because of pandemic), I started taking anti-depressant every other day. I started being grateful and generous with ILYs to my loved ones.

Lastly, acceptance and forgiveness. I always ensure that I only think is the present. I avoid thinking about the past nor the future. Mindfulness.

I am recovering fast. Thank you God and I love you. I now enjoy being single and alone. ^_^

Aside from this, I am also praying for the person God is preparing for me. Praying that she should be my last and only person I would like to spend the rest of my life with. And I can wait. Patience is a virtue.

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As for Cha, I tried reaching out to her since we had misunderstanding last July 27 until now. But what can I do if the person doesn't want to be reached out? I also cannot give Moo, Rain, nor Katkat to her. Why? She failed to ask how they were doing for the past few weeks (Jul-Aug). Now that they are doing good without her, she's going to get them? Na-ah. She can only borrow Tiger, Api, or Roshi. For the rest, I will not let her borrow them. She might not return them. 

Even though I don't know her reasons why she did all that, I deeply understand her. If I were in her shoes, I might probably do the same. But past is past. What we can all do is to move forward.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

The Safety Valve In Handling Complaints

Most people trying to win to their way of thinking do too much talking themselves. Let the other person talk themselves out. They know more about their business and problems than you do. So ask them questions. Let them tell you a few things.

If you disagree with them you may be tempted to interrupt. But don't. It is dangerous. They won't pay attention to you while they still have a lot of ideas of their own crying for expression. So listen patiently and with an open mind. Be sincere about it. Encourage them to express their ideas fully.

He showed an interest in the other person and his problems. He encouraged the other person to do most of the talking - and made a favorable impression.

Even our friends would much rather talk to us about their achievements than listen to us boast about ours.

"If you want enemies, excel your friends; but if you want friends, let your friends excel you." - La Rochefoucauld

Because when our friends excel us, they feel important; but when we excel them, they - or at least some of them - will feel inferior and envious. 

Principle 6: Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

I love myself 😊

After チャ left me and found out about that "Daryl incident", many plans have changed. I didn't push through anymore buying a residential lot for us. I also gave up the idea of buying an engagement ring and propose to her. Also gave up the idea of helping her buy the condo in Cambridge. I then decided to continue my Masters and just finish it. Then will apply abroad after pandemic.

I was deeply heartbroken and fell ill. I didn't give up life despite that. I started working out, meditating, having healthy lifestyle (eat nutritious food), and reading and learning. And when working out and meditating were not enough, I started taking my anti-depressant medicine every other day. Now, I feel good almost everyday. Whenever I feel sad or lonely, I just acknowledge the feeling and embrace it. I love being single, spending time alone and with my family. I went back to being generous in saying "I love you" to my parents, my siblings, my furbabies, and others. 😁 Feel so good expressing your love to your loved ones. I can still make myself smile and laugh - jamming to the music and dancing alone. Haha! And when I'm bored and nothing to do nor talk to, I just read. 😉

I am healing fast. I just have to stay in the present. Avoid thinking about the past and thinking much about the future. Also don't expect anything. 😁

The Secret of Socrates

In talking with people, don't begin by discussing the things on which you differ. Keep emphasizing, if possible, that you are both striving for the same end and that your only difference is one of method and not of purpose.

Keep your opponent, if possible, from saying "No". A "No" response is a most difficult handicap to overcome. When you have said, "No", all your pride of personality demands that you remain consistent with yourself. Once having said a thing, you feel you must stick to it.

 When a person says "Yes," none of the withdrawal activities takes place. The organism is in a forward-moving, accepting, open attitude. 

It often seems as if people get a sense of their own importance by antagonizing others at the outset.

"I finally learned that it doesn't pay to argue, that it is much more profitable and much more interesting to look at things from the other person's viewpoint and try to get that person saying 'yes, yes'." - Joseph Allison

Socratic method was based upon getting a "yes, yes" response. He asked questions with which his opponent would have to agree. He kept on winning one admission after another until he had an armful of yeses. He kept on asking questions until finally, almost without realizing it, his opponents found themselves embracing a conclusion they would have bitterly denied a few minutes previously.

"He who treads softly goes far." - Chinese Proverb

Principle 5: Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

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A Drop of Honey

If your temper is aroused and you tell 'em a thing or two, you will have a fine time unloading your feelings. But what about the other person? Will he share your pleasure? Will your belligerent tones, your hostile attitude, make it easy for him to agree with you?

"'Let us sit down and take counsel together, and, if we differ from each other, understand why it is that we differ, just what the points at issue are,' we will presently find that we are not so far apart after all, that the points on which we differ are few and the points on which we agree are many, and that if we only have the patience and the candor and the desire to get together, we will get together." - Woodrow Wilson

"A drop of honey catches more flies than a gallon of gall." So with men, if you would win a man to your cause, first convince him that you are his sincere friend. Therein is a drop of honey that catches his heart; which, say what you will, is the great high road to his reason. - Lincoln

What friendliness always does: it begot friendliness.

Most powerful arguments with such friendly remarks as: "It will be for the jury to consider," "This may, perhaps, be worth thinking of," "Here are some facts that I trust you will not lose sight of," or "You, with your knowledge of human nature, will easily see the significance of these facts." No bulldozing. No high pressure methods. No attempt to force his opinions on others.

It was the friendly, sympathetic, appreciative approach that won.

The use of gentleness and friendliness is demonstrated day after day by people who have learned that a drop of honey catches more flies than a gallon of gall.

The sun can make you take off your coat more quickly than the wind; and kindliness, the friendly approach and appreciation can make people change their minds more readily than all the bluster and storming in the world.

Principle 4: Begin in a friendly way.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

Might be true

Saw this shared by a colleague.

 

Baka nga, I'm the wrong person for her. And I thought the opposite, she's the right person for me.

Sad but true.

#ktnxbye

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D

If You're Wrong, Admit It

Isn't it much easier to listen to self-criticism than to bear condemnation from alien lips?

Say about yourself all the derogatory things you know the other person is thinking or wants to say or intends to say - and say them before that person has a chance to say them. The chances are hundred to one that a generous, forgiving attitude will be taken and your mistakes will be minimized. 

There is a certain degree of satisfaction in having the courage to admit one's errors. It not only clears the air of guilt and defensiveness, but often helps solve the problem created by the error.

Any fool can try to defend his or her mistakes - and most fools do - but it raises one above the herd and gives one a feeling of nobility and exultation to admit one's mistakes.

"If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically." - Dale Carnegie

It might be too late to admit quickly but one can admit emphatically.

When we are right, let's try to win people gently and tactfully to our way of thinking, and when we are wrong - and that will be surprisingly often, if we are honest with ourselves - let's admit our mistakes quickly and with enthusiasm.

"By fighting you never get enough, but by yielding you get more than you expected."

Principle 3: If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.

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Nothing is impossible with Him. =D